and she wants me to give her space for a while and she says she still loves me..but i dont understand how after 11 months she can just go back to step 1.i kno i cant. she says she doesnt know who she is and she needs to figure that out.im stuck here at home on spring break with nothing to do except go to work. what should i do?i can't stand it!
2007-03-26 09:55:39 · 27 answers · asked by ilovehur42 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her that when she figures out who he is to come talk to you but that you can't start over and put yourself in emotional peril if she isn't sure what she wants.
2007-03-26 10:01:02 · answer #1 · answered by aiguyaiguy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from me, if a woman says the words "space" "doesn't know who she is" those are bogus translations for I'm interested in someone else, but I'll say I still love you incase this current guy isn't interested in me.
What is step 1? If she broke up with you, go out and just have a good time with friends at bars, but not in a I'm getting drunk b/c my g/f broke up with me route. Try to just start a conversation with 5 girls a day, no matter if they blow you off, that way you can get confidence back in you that says...I'm not afraid to move on...dude it's her loss, seriously, if you go back to her, you'll keep asking why why why, when all you two will do is bicker...
another note:meet her if you can for a nice dinner or what not, then when she looks comfortable, look her in the eyes and ask, "Is there someone else that your interested in?" Is there a delayed reaction? Does her eyes wonder? That would be a straightforward way to do it, then if she studders, then studder your way out the door and she gets stuck paying for the bill, and you get to move on my friend.
2007-03-26 10:07:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one...because I would personally have trust issues at this point. What exactly has she been doing up until this point? And can a person really find themselves once they have so-called lost them self? I would definitely check into this deeper. Women leave men for reasons. Not to find themselves. Usually there is an underlined reason. Maybe she wasn't getting enough of something out of the relationship or maybe too much. But really the issue might have been change. Who knows please don't just sit around and work all spring break take time out of this chaos and do something for yourself.
And check into this further....don't get stuck in a relationship where you are going to be unhappy. There is always more fish in the sea.
2007-03-26 10:05:18 · answer #3 · answered by cheyenne29646 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, you know what she wants. Now, what do you want. If you do not want to go back to square one, then don't. If she wants to go fine herself, give her a compass and a map. This is a girl out there that wants the same thing as you.
What to do on spring break, go out and meet some girls and hang out with the guys. Maybe, by standing for what you believe in, she will realize that you won't be available when she finally finds herself.
2007-03-26 10:07:48 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine23511 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The decision she made to go back to step one could mean alot of things but over all, she was not as ready as you or she was still hung up on someone else. Either way, if you really love her then stay with her but if you are genuinely hurt by her actions then let her go because you will never trust that she feels the same as you do. That kind of mistrust can really ruin a relationship if it goes unattended to for a long time. As a girl, I have done this before and it hurt me too but not as bad as him, we don't talk anymore because of it.
2007-03-26 10:01:27 · answer #5 · answered by gothchick696 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her here: "i'm sorry however the sentiments that originally introduced us jointly and characteristic stored us jointly this long are in basic terms not there for me to any extent further and that i might choose to end our relationship." all of us know while we get right into a relationship with every physique that finally it rather is going to end, the two by way of one individual shifting forward or yet another one loss of life. that's in basic terms the way it particularly is and there is not any thank you to spare her thoughts. She could experience harm initially yet will get better, have no concern. she will appreciate which you sat her down and instructed her rapidly the type you experience instead of warding off the communication and sending a notice or calling her on the telephone. She does deserve that a lot, appropriate? good success.
2016-10-19 23:52:11 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, If she really wants to be with you.. She wouldn't have broke up with you in the first place. Take my advice i had the same problem I was dating this guy for 3 yrs and he wanted some space turns out that he was fooling around with others just leave her be and forget her if you want keep the friend ship going because you can always use friends
best of luck:D
2007-03-26 10:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by Megan R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go, she is obviously too young an immature for relationship, if your still friends by the time she is 25 or 30, then consider something more serious. Do not waste your time with someone that does not want you, it will only hurt you more in the long run, there are plenty of fish out there, your young, jump in take a swim have fun and enjoy life you deserve it.
2007-03-26 10:12:37 · answer #8 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you do is give her what she's asking for. Who wants to be involved with someone who doesn't know who they are. Women/Men are like buses..there will be another one coming along in the next ten minutes. What were you doing before she was around 11 months ago....back to basics. I have had to experience this myself recently, and once I allowed the split to happen I had so much more fun and peace in my life. My sympathies, but stop whining and go enjoy your life.
2007-03-26 10:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by sugarbunz01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u want opinions mine is this - find another girl u dont know what would happen if u gave her time and she says the words "i want u back" if she waits almost a year to tell u she still loves u then im doubting she does or ever did i think u should forget about her dont set yourself up to be hurt again by the same girl
2007-03-26 10:01:02 · answer #10 · answered by Princess LovAngel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude!!! Chill out. It is not the end of the world. Give her space and don't talk to her or try to contact her. If she calls you just act normal. You will push her away if you get all clingy. It also sounds like she is scoping out other guys to date if she already is not dating one. You do not want to be a sucker.
If she really wants to be with you she will come to you.
Go hang out with friends or put in some overtime.
2007-03-26 10:00:48 · answer #11 · answered by Asian Mami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋