approx. 2 1/2 yrs ago my ex and i parted on angry terms.. soon after (very soon) he got married to some little...well lets just say he got married. Right after they married (1 day later) he came back home and patched our relationship up. all the while i had no idea of this marriage. When i found out (1 month later) it was sooo over (him and i).So basically they got married and I was on the honeymoon. I know, i know , kinda twisted huh. imagine how i feel . Anyway for about 4 months or so we were not on speeking terms. then we ran into eachother and it was on (if you know what i mean) so he never really made an exit from my life and confessed to me that the marriage was out of spite (to hurt me) but when it came down to it he couldn't tell me. instead i figured it out on my own..this is a no brainer...right ? run away from this man..... sad part is.. easier said than done. i know for a fact that they are seperated and have been for some time now. But what do i do with this?
2007-03-26 09:42:56 · 5 answers · asked by GAL PAL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yours is a hard question. It kind of sounds like you are addicted to each other. I am not saying that as a insult. It's just some times we get addicted to a certain energy a person has with us...It can be bad energy or good energy.
You have spent a large portion of your life on this man. Can I ask do you think you have a hard time letting him go cause then you would feel like you wasted years on him? Again not a insult just trying to understand you. That time was not wasted ...you had fun and you had love ,gave love and you learned some hard lessons.Right? I think you deserve much better than this man....I think you want better for yourself too or you would not be trying so hard to let him go. You are half way there cause you have come to realize that you need to get him out of your life.
The hard part is you love him... you always will love some part of him. He was HUGE part of your life.
What he has done to you is shockingly disrespectful... Have you not had enough?He has shown you just how cruel and dirty he can be. Please try to muster as much strenght as you can. Write it down if you have too! Do not let him back into your life. I know it is not easy ...It will be the hardest thing you ever do. It can be done. Just keep moving forward. Know that you will get real weak at times of stress and want to talk to him. Talk to yourself during this time or a friend. Come here and answer questions,do laundry, write.Do anything to not contact him. If you slip ( and you may) don't fret just start over always with the thought" I deserve better" You can do this for yourself.
I had the same problem (15 years) Well about two years ago we were broken up for millionth time. Well I let him have one last try ...We were working on things.He had lost his job and apartment. I thought maybe he was trying to get back with me so he could move into my condo. I never let him move into my place , he stayed with his male friend.I helped him get a new job.At the new job he met a new girl. He tried to hide it from me but after 15 years I knew him too well. I let him go. Well 4-5 months later . Him and his new girlfriend and her 3 kids bought a condo in my complex. They lived 25 feet from me. The new girlfriend was unaware at first that I lived there. All my neighbors knew this man as my boyfriend... So I was very embarrassed. After she found I lived so closely. They harassed me and maligned me to my neighbors... Told some of my most personal secrets to my neighbors. He would hug and kiss on her if he saw me outside. I acted with class through out this whole time...Skip a head 2 years. She's gone .... Now he tries to talk to me. Leaves gifts on my doorstep . Leaves long drawn out messages on my answer machine. I have never spoken to him again. It was hard in the begining but now I feel so good and happy.
2007-03-26 10:21:34 · answer #1 · answered by yeah , yeah whatever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's as easy as said. They only thing stopping you from doing what is right is your own weakness.
You have made so many mistakes with this guy, and they are all your own fault. Stop it.
Damaged goods...and I mean you.
2007-03-26 09:51:56 · answer #2 · answered by Just a friend. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if you still have feelings for this guy then it's on like donkey kong, if not, you need to tell him marrying someone to hurt you is dumb and you don't think you can be with him
2007-03-26 09:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Chris M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him once and for all. He thinks nothing of using people.
2007-03-26 09:51:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
man this guy Is a genius
2007-03-26 09:49:36 · answer #5 · answered by Specter7 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋