Like thumb sucking, cuddles , wanting a baby's bottle etc. and slight bedwetting; despite me saying she's a big girl with reassuarnces, she keeps wanting to wear nappies.
She was ecstatic to know she was going to use double towelling nappies (thicker and bigger than baby size). But it seemed to have have aggrevated her night time wetting as her towelling is saturated every morning, sometimes requiring a soaker/extra nappy change at night. She insists on me changing her, even outside and never has her nappy been dry for more than 1 hr. She's going through 5-7 nappy changes a day at weekends and 2-3 during weekdays (cos of school). When I try to take her out of them, she cries and starts to wet- I dont know if it's a genuine or cos. she wants nappies.
Nappies keep her dry and comfy but would it be difficult for her to loose them in future ? Can nappies make her wetting worse ? what's the best way forward cos. nothing I say seems to embarass her and she keeps wetting in them.
2007-03-26 09:24:07 · 17 answers · asked by Sophia12345 S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Divorce or not I would not tolerate a 6 year old in diapers. Get her psychological help, but your child needs to understand that her behavior is not acceptable.
2007-03-26 09:34:49 · answer #1 · answered by NickyO 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off, don't worry too much. She won't be wearing nappies when she's 18!
It does sound like a comfort/security thing. Perhaps you could try a sticker chart, start with small time increments like ten minutes every morning. If she stays dry for that time she gets a sticker with a giant sticker or other reward after collecting five little ones. After each reward win increase the time. Talk about the things the two of you will be able to do together as she gets older and needs nappies less (then do them, girly shopping, a picnic, whatever). Also as far as is possible ignore the wetting, absolutely and completely, have a cold blank face when changing her but give lots of praise and love when she is dry. Also find her a goal, does she want to be a princess ballerina? Find her a ballet class or whatever her dream is.
All the best.
2007-03-26 09:39:32 · answer #2 · answered by 'H' 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
First you have to take her to a doctor to make sure there's no bladder problem that is causing trouble for her and then you have to completely take her out of the nappies.
My son was almost 4 and still wearing them and he was old enough for me to ask him why... he said they got all hot when he peepeed and he loved that feeling!! The next day he was in underpants and it only took 3 days of feeling horribly cold and wet for him to stop wetting.
I think they make them so comfortable these days that it's almost easier for the child and parent to just keep them on. You both have to be willing to put up with a really bad week of wetness and stains in order to get over this. At her age, kids in school will start to tease her and that will just cause more trouble.
You really have to stop saying she's a big girl and actually start treating her as one. No more bottles, a trip to the dentist to explain how bad the thumb sucking is for her teeth. She IS a big girl now so you can talk to her about this.
Good luck with this :)
OOps, I just reread this and realized it looks like I'm saying she should be wet at school as well as at home. Sorry, I didn't mean that.... she should be comfortable at school. At home is where you should just let her be wet and cold and uncomfortable. She really will figure out how much better it is to be dry if you just let her be wet.
2007-03-26 09:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by Canadian_mom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're going to have to potty train her again. Since she's older, start off by stoping liquids 1 hr before bed or 7 pm. and getting her up a few times during the night. As she starts to be dry at night, cut back on the get ups. Incorporate the same things during the day that you did to potty train her the first time. If that doesn't work, I suggest seeking the help of a professional. The divorce is having regression effects on her and you might need help getting her past that. In her mind, she thinks being a baby again will bring her parents back together like they were during that time.
2007-03-26 10:19:33 · answer #4 · answered by eehco 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not saying this to be nasty Hun but sounds like she is a bit spoilt to me, why on earth is she in nappies anyway they should have gone years ago, my twin son is still in nappies and he is 9 but has severe autism, you need to NOT have any nappies in your house at all if she see's there is none there maybe she will then understand well mummy's not buying anymore, as soon as my son has a nappy on he will wet it but... I'm sure your daughter is just doing it because she know you allow it and at 6 that's not right my twin daughter was dry at 3, if you continue to treat her as a baby she will continue to act like one with the bottles too,
2007-03-29 20:59:11 · answer #5 · answered by Autism's Beautiful Face 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should consult with a doctor or health visitor just incase she needs some psychological help? I also think it is a phase she is going through and with your continued love, support, motivation and persuation she will loose the nappies. It is probably like a comfort blanket to her at the moment. Time and patience and you'll both be fine.
2007-03-26 09:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by tadder 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she is feeling the stress of your break-up and wants things to be like they were when she was a baby so by re-enacting her baby ways she may think her daddy will come back. explain to her that you and her daddy both love her very much and that none of this is her fault .give her lots of love and cuddles and praise her when she is good . take her shopping with the excuse that if she is a big girl and out of nappies she will get some treats.
2007-03-26 09:33:06 · answer #7 · answered by fushia 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my children loved dummy's and it was really hard to break my son was 6 and my daughter 4
what i had to do eventually was just through them away the children played up for about a week but they gave them up
when your daughter wets her pants leave them wet and her clothes a few tI'mes when she realises mums not going to change me every time im wet she might realise that its not that comfortable
good luck
2007-03-27 06:08:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your child seeks attention and your love, she is unhappy about the divorce. she may have a bladder problem aggrevating the nappy problem, seek a doctors advice and he will refer you for help. good luck
2007-03-26 13:00:43 · answer #9 · answered by Dolly 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please don't let her wet herself on purpose at school, the embarrassment may stay with her for ever. Sounds as though you need help - the doctor is the place to start and if s/he doesn't help, go to another. Good luck
2007-03-26 09:37:21 · answer #10 · answered by Em 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋