I mean like pouring things in the floor,getting food out of the fridge without permission. Running out the door while I am on the phone,turning on water hoses squirting me & themselves. HELLLLLLP! Yes they get spankings,yes they get punished,NOTHING has helped with their behavior. They are 4.
2007-03-26 09:15:43 · 6 answers · asked by Twinsand1 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Take them to grandmas!
2007-03-27 04:02:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have your hands full!
You might want to try to "catch them being good." This is a strategy for discipline that some teachers use that focuses on the positive. The jist of it is that you ignore the small bad behaviors and praise, encourage, and reward the behaviors that you want. This is complimented by consistent punishment for the behaviors that cannot be tolerated.
I've found that this works well for my kids. Most of my rewards are of the free type, hugs, kisses, tickles, verbal praise. However, occasionally we make a special trip to the zoo or they get money to buy something when we are going to the store.
I've found that when I'm trying to focus on the kids good behavior, I have less stressful days, and I can more easily deal with the trouble that busy and active kids get into.
Another suggestion I would have is to wear them out. Take them outside and make them run and play in a very active way. If outside won't work, many malls have play areas you can go to. If nothing else, chase them around your home, or better yet, get them to chase each other.
You can also look at their sleeping habits. A lot of mothers of twins that I know swear by a book called "Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child" by Marc Weissbluth. One of the things in the book is that some behavior problems are caused by lack of sleep.
Remember, in all likelihood it is just a phase and "This Too Shall Pass", just like the sleepless nights and constant feeding of the first few months, so hang in there.
2007-03-26 21:01:26 · answer #2 · answered by Wilmavimom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They don't respect you. You need to find a naughty spot like nanny 911 does. Don't let them get away with the behavior. Punish them make them sit for four minutes and then apologize for their behavior. Keep it up and show them that you mean business and be consistent. If you have to also take all of their toys away until they know that you are serious.
2007-03-26 16:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by mom of twins 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know they're older, but I would really look into some childproofing gadgets for your home - get a child lock for your refridgerator, cabinets.... and install a deadbolt lock that requires a key to any door that leads to the outside. That will at least keep them safe until they learn to follow your rules - its so dangerous they're running outside on their own!
I'm not sure what kind of punishments you are doing, but just be consistent - no always means no, and bad behavior ALWAYS has a consequence. reward any good behavior. good luck!
2007-03-26 18:28:08 · answer #4 · answered by Mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't threaten. Just do what you say you are going to do. My girls are 3 and 4 and I am just now realizing that I am always warning them about "the next time you do that" they'll get punished. Not anymore. If I tell them I am going to do something I do it. You are letting them get away with too much and they know it so they're taking advantage.
2007-03-26 16:24:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Make them sit on the couch and tell thim there is a crazy man with a bloody ax behind the couch and he will chop their legs off if they get up or make noise. If they are bad about getting in the fridge, tell them there is a big mean dog that lives in there. When they try to run outside, tell them a crazy woman has been lurking around outside. Hope this helps!
2007-03-26 16:30:22 · answer #6 · answered by Bernice B 1 · 1⤊ 4⤋