I have been dating this girl on and off for about 6 years now. However about a month ago I met another girl and I have really started to like her. Its nothing more than friends at this point but I would like to maybe have a relationship with her. Is it worth risking an "ok" relationship to hop into a new relationship?? I guess im just scared of something not working and ending up alone.......
2007-03-26 09:14:56 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, you can't really have your cake and eat it too, can you?
I wouldn't do anything with the new "love interest" before setting things straight with the current g/f.
If you've been on and off again for 6 years, then it seems like both of you are using each other as a "back-up" "just-in-case".
You'll never know if you don't try. But then again a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
However, only YOU can decide whether it's worth it or not.
2007-03-26 09:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok on and off for 6 years. Depends how old you two are, when did you start dating? If your in your mid 20's at least. I wouldnt recommend staying with your gf if all you are thinking about is what if it doesnt work out or your scared of being alone. You can do everything possible to keep a relationship strong if two people love each other and want nothing more than to be together. Obviously somethings not working out for you to be looking and wanting a new girl. And going off and on for that long, why the heck is she putting up with that? Probably because she loves you and is waiting to marry you as soon as you ask her. Thats the only reason I can see why she would still be with you. Just imagine if you left the gf and got with this new girl. How would you feel if she started doing this to you, or she left you shortly after and you broke your gf's heart for her? Are you wanting to cause a possibel more heart ache then what you are already dealing with? First think if you want to or could spend the rest of your life with the girl your with, why your with her, if its for any reason other then that you love her, such as your affraid of being alone. Then do not stay in that relationship, its not healthy for you or her. But dont go rushing right to another relationship, take a break, get to know yourself and what you want in life. You dont need a woman 24/7 365. Before you can love someone else you need to love yourself first. Good luck, and I hope that noones hearts get broken over this ordeal.
2007-03-26 09:28:06 · answer #2 · answered by butterflycassandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ionno how do u feel about the girl that you are in a relationship with now? After all she has been with u for 6 years! Compare the 2 girls! See what u like about 1 girl and then see if the other 1 matches up 2 that! Talk 2 the new girl and see how she feels! If she dosent want 2 be anything other than just friends then stay with the other girl!
2007-03-26 09:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by kaykay5698 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
on and off for six years-- that is a long time! if the relatioship is just OK why are you still in it..? Do you love the girl you have been dating? If you are happy with your girl then stay with her, if you are not happy then maybe it is time to move on and see what's out there..
maybe you should take some time alone before you act on anything..tell your current gf that you need some alone time and think about what you want (don't act on impluse!)
2007-03-26 09:18:59 · answer #4 · answered by stephanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you considering spending your life in an ok relationship? If fear is the only thing holding you back, it is not fair to your girlfriend to stay with her. She deserves someone that will truly love her and cherish her. Sounds to me like you need to figure out your requirements, needs, and wants in a relationship and then you will be able to see which women if any of them meets those needs.
2007-03-26 09:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, if you are even having these thoughts... i would get out of the relationship before you invest any more of your time and your current girlfriends time... plus feelings....
Also, Please Break up with the one girlfriend Before trying the new relationship.... If you dont, your taking a risk of losing them BOTH.
2007-03-26 09:21:26 · answer #6 · answered by 123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 23:47:14 · answer #8 · answered by schwalm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋