We started ours in January of 2006, so it has been over 14 months now and frankly I am getting FED UP! We've been waiting and waiting and we've been engaged since Valentines Day and I want to start planning our wedding but I cant because Im still waiting for his annulment to come through.
I'm wondering if I should call and bug them, what do you think?
2007-03-26 09:13:02 · 7 answers · asked by snailysnal 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Unbelievable! One of a (very few) reasons I am not Roman Catholic.
I started our Anglican procedures for a Sacramental annulment for a couple in my parish in January of 2007. It was completed yesterday and the paperwork arrived from the Bishop.
I'd start making noise if I were you!
2007-03-26 09:17:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is a concern here. And most likely it is the respondent NOT filing anything. Do you know if the ex involved here HAS completed the paperwork? That is the biggest reason why annulments are delayed.
You may have to be more forceful on that end, i.e., contact ex with new copy of annulment papers and 'sit' on ex until they are completed. Hand the ex a SASE for them to submit to the tribunal.
However, if there both sets of paperwork is completed and in the dioceseans tribunal. Contact the person that assisted you in filling out the forms for your fiance and they will direct you to the appropriate person who is taking care of your pleadings.
From there, you will get an idea of the status of the annulment.
Once you have the status, WRITE that person a letter. They MUST include this in the proceedings paperwork. By doing that, it requires it be manually pulled--it MAY put your annulment on the top, okay?
Remember, this is to show nullity in the sacrament of the marriage. It is very imperative that it is recieved prior to your marriage--else you forsake your loved one's soul because of an extra-marriage in essence; adultery. You do not want that for your sweetie, I know. So think of it that way when you get all burned up (and frankly, understandably so).
To the above poster "Pooky"....the reason for the annulment and the 'basis' of your ex's wife not wanting children IS legitimate. I'm sorry that you have had to endure such a long time, but if your not Catholic and you don't 'care' why are you waiting? Furthermore, there is no bribery here. Get over yourself.
2007-03-27 05:17:31 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle_My_Belle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in the same situation. My husband was Catholic and we had to wait for his annulment to go through before we could get married. It made it very difficult to set a date.
I have no advice for you, it took us 1-2 years for it to go through. Frankly, I think Catholic annulments are ridiculous..his annulment was basically "bought" (he was given the impression that if the "suggested donation" was not paid, the annulment might not go through, or it will take forever). He had to pay a $250 suggested donation for this annulment, and the basis was pretty much fabricated (the claim was because his ex didn't want to have kids, which WAS true, but, come on). It seems a pretty tricky way of fooling God so you can get a divorce. That's what I think...I'm not Catholic.
You can try to call and bug them but I don't know if it will help. Maybe you should pay them more $? I don't know if that would help, either, though. Sorry I'm not more help. Anyway, Good Luck!!!
2007-03-26 09:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Pooky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all this is why you should not be dating a married man- and he is still married in the eyes of God.
What are you going to do if the annulment is not given? Marry him anyway and live in adultery?
Anyway- you have no business calling anybody- it has nothing to do with you unless it is your marriage under review.
Your stud should call his advocate and ask what the delay is.
I hope you aren't living together and/ or having sex. You should hear what Dr. Laura has to say about THAT!!! And she isn't even Catholic!
2007-03-28 16:50:18 · answer #4 · answered by Mommy_to_seven 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are engaged, why do you have to worry? A marriage would be just continuing what you have now. You don't have to rush, YOU STILL have the rest of your lives. This just shows that they do not rubberstamp annulments.
2007-03-26 09:18:39 · answer #5 · answered by great gig in the sky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two things going on - one the annulment is being delayed deliberately or two its a process , i have a feeling it the first
2007-03-26 09:17:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In some cases it takes longer than a year possibly two or more.
2007-03-26 09:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by Luis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋