I just broke up with my boyfriend because I didn't like where the relationship was going(he didn't realize that he was mentally abusing me) and realized I was a lot happier when I wasn't dating him. He's now in a deep blue funk, but his best friend promised me he'd cheer him up.
I have a rule for after breaking up, I don't start dating again for the same number of weeks after I dump a guy as the monthes I went out with him. To me, it's common courtesy.
But now I find myself falling for a friend of mine that was there through the entire ordeal. We trust each other a lot( I'm the only one that knows he was a boyscout), and one of our friends says he spends more time talk to and being with me than any of his other friends. Yes, I like him, I wouldn't mind going out with him. But does that mean I should break my rule? I still care about how my ex feels, I don't want him to think I just broke up with him to start dating another guy, cause that wasn't the reason. What do I do?
2007-03-26 09:10:15 · 9 answers · asked by kytigirl200 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stick with your rule because you never know if things can change. You need to use this as a constructive period to find out what you want and need in a relationship. If after that amount of time he's ready and rearin to go and he fits your description, then go for it
2007-03-26 09:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Déjà Vu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a little while but I wouldn't wait too long. He's your ex for a reason and it just didn't work out so he shouldn't be mad at you for starting another relationship. Some people just don't go together and he should understand that. He shouldn't be allowed to rule your life when you're not together so why are you letting him? Do want you want it's your decision. If you like this guy and you connect and if the feelings are mutual than I think you should pursue it. You can't give up a good thing for something that ended up bad. that's not fair to you
2007-03-26 09:22:55 · answer #2 · answered by blessed mommy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you know some people say rules are meant to be broken-but if i were you i would really make sure the feelings for this guy arent just because he was there thru your break up etc with your b/f so many times we can confuse our feelings with people becasue of this-because someone was always there for us in a trying time or whatever etc we tend to think we have feelings stronger then we actually do for them until we act on them and then realize w really didnt-alot of times that then makes our friendship with the person"never the same" good luck to you
2007-03-26 09:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by roxy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately dump that weird rule of yours - you gotta take opportunities whent hey arise, you never know when the next one will come - go with youre heart but use your head!
2007-03-26 09:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart, rules are made to be broken in some cases. Just take it slow, and build the friendship.
2007-03-26 09:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by angelsncali 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why wait? Life is way too short to wait around. It's your life start dating your friend and get some happiness back in your life.
2007-03-26 09:17:04 · answer #6 · answered by Sexy Sel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
common courtesy!?!? nooo you just want the men who dump you to not date anyone sooner than you!! lol admit it!! come on!! just stop making ridiculous rules and follow your heart!
2007-03-26 09:13:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
at the end of the day its your life, do what u want
2007-03-26 09:17:57 · answer #8 · answered by Debsh2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget the rule and ask him out!!! lol
2007-03-26 09:15:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋