This is refering back to my earlier question. I just got off the phone with her...
My friend wanted some clothes for vacation and thought she'd surprise her boyfriend with some more provocative clothing. She looked great in everything she borrowed.
Since she usually dresses so conservatively, he was shocked at this, and he was getting annoyed and jealous by all the men staring at her.
They've been together for 3 years, and he's never shown this behavior, and I've been friends with her for 10 years!
Now, he's blaming ME for ruining their vacation and implying I should pay for the trip!!!
I don't even know where to begin with this! I am in shock!
It was my idea for her to borrow the clothes and surprise him.
Now she is siding with him, and it came out inadvertently that since she looks better in the clothes than I do, that is why it never created a problem with me and my husband when I wear them!!!
How do I RETALIATE???
2007-03-26 09:01:53 · 20 answers · asked by Reserved 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Tell those lunchbag losers, that you are bored with them, and move on. Who wants to be friends with people that are so unhappy, that they ...
#1 Borrow clothing to go on a holiday, then act like the clothing magically caused "trouble" (husband had control issues from way back, and this is the First time its come to head? I think not)
#2 Get into a fight with a hubby and then side with him over again "provocative clothing" rather than pop the weasel in the nose for being just that a sick, jealous weasel.
#3 Claiming she looked better than you in them. That is just a way to hurt you like her hubby hurts her all the time.
Since you are in your 30's you now have the freedom to make better friends than that, CLose the door on that relationship and lock it. Bury the key.
2007-03-26 10:29:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sionainn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1. Your friend looked great. She has a problem looking great?
2. Your friend's husband has a problem with having a wife who looks great?
3. Your friend's vacation was ruined because she looked good?
Are you sure these are really your friends, and not psycho-whacked-out pod people who have replaced your real friends?
No retaliation necessary. This incident should blow over in time. If it doesn't, then if they continue bringing up that you should pay for the vacation, tell them to take it to small claims court. You'll win the case, and lose a couple of "friends" you didn't need.
2007-03-26 09:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
nicely, it particularly is in comparison to that with me. i'm acquaintances with people even nevertheless they are gruesome, or short etc. For me, it rather is the interior that counts. yet, you know little ones are especially shallow, they choose to be general at school so some do however they are able to to be, appropriate? on the top of the day, if somebody does not choose to be ur pal because of the fact of seems etc. then that individual isn't a real pal;) good success!
2016-10-19 23:45:53 · answer #3 · answered by schwalm 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't retaliate. You say "well I'm very sorry this caused so much trouble. I guess no good deed goes unpunished and I am being punished for being a friend, therefore, I will no longer be friends with either of you." If she is going to treat you like that after 10 yrs of friendship, she was no friend to begin with. I would just say "have a nice life" and do not return calls or speak to them again.
2007-03-26 09:12:36 · answer #4 · answered by blondee 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
my goodness!
how rude, and really stupid (in my opinion)
for one, the husband is coming off a bit over-protective (and mighty untrustworthy, again, in my opinion)
has she ever done anything like this before?
because that would be surprising if she hadn't.
just simply tell her "no, it's uncalled for that you would graciously accept my clothing to wear on your trip, and even come forth and tell me you looked better in them! so now you're just going to turn around and call me a horrible friend for LETTING you borrow my own clothing? You're such an idiot! I'm not paying a dime for your trip!"
and then act highly insulted, splash cold water all over her face, and storm out of the room.
that's what i'd do.
2007-03-26 11:37:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't bother with retaliation. She's on her path to self destruction. What better retaliation? Now that she has discovered her sexy self, she'll be so full of herself that she will destroy her friendships and probably her relationship with her boyfriend. He was comfortable as long as she was attractive only to him.
It never was a problem with you and you husband because you show calm assurance in your attractiveness and your husband is secure in your relationship.
Let the two insecure whiners work it out. Don't feel responsible for their feelings.
2007-03-26 09:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by friendlyadvice 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgive her...she is caught in between an angry husband and a loyal friend.
She was expecting a positive response from her husband and all she got was a spoiled trip, so she is being defensive.
She'll come around...just love her and don't get hurt over her behavior towards you.
(I'm sure you've said or done something stupid in your relationship with her in the past...)
2007-03-26 09:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Buff 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop with all the drama! Seriously. If your friend's peeved at getting oogled and stared at, let her be that way. What's she going to do? Sue you? If it comes to that, PLEASE let me know when and where, because I'll be selling popcorn outside the courthouse, and have front row seats.
Nobody forced your friend to wear these clothes. Nobody physically held her down, and forced her into those clothes.
This is seriously fodder for Springer...
2007-03-26 09:58:22 · answer #8 · answered by xooxcable 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She is a grown woman...she didn't have to wear the clothes...you made a suggestion...she made a choice....she should grow up accept responsibility for her choice...don't retaliate....you don't want to be as immature as they are being....
2007-03-26 09:09:23 · answer #9 · answered by Erinyes 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get your stuff back, and then just never have anything to do with the jerks again. You're not that desperate for friends!
2007-03-26 10:36:07 · answer #10 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋