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I have been noticing everytime i talk to my friends these days or in class when the teacher calls on me, Im soo nervous!. Every time I talk to my friends Im always so conscious about what Im saying that I become nervous through the entire conversation and it shows!! i don't know how to be relaxed and at-ease when I am talking to my friends & teachers. im always confused about what to say next in a conversation, i think too much and i don't know how to stop this. i know i can be a totally relaxed person, because i talk so easily with my parents and in front of the mirror. does anyone know a good way to stop being nervous in these situations?

2007-03-26 08:38:18 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture Etiquette

10 answers

you have to stop thinking negativley. if you keep believing your going to be nervous when talking to people then ofcourse its going to happen. just like if you keep telling yourself your stupid eventually you'll start to believe it. whenever you catch yourself begining to feel nervous just think: STOP! and reassure yourself that you're a calm cool person. Just focus on what the other person is saying and while you listen plan what you want to say next. Staying deeply involved in the conversation should keep your mind off your social fears. If it helps, pretend your talking to one of your parents instead of a friend or teacher. think of conversation as a tennis match, just keep hitting balls (conversation topics ie. the weather, shopping, movies) until the other person hits one of them back and you have a good back and forth ralley. just keep hitting things out there until you find something that will get the other person talking. don't worry so much about what you talk about just TALK. no one is going to think your stupid. people say ridiculous stuff all the time its really okay! besides im sure your a smart girl and you need to tell yourself that. part of the secret is just realizing you're better than most people most of the time!

2007-03-26 09:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

It sounds like you may be developing social anxiety or going into a bout of depression. Go somewhere quiet and think about the things that may have changed in your life at the point in which the nervousness set in. Make a list if you have to. Often, changes in one's life affects the way they interact with others. Have your finances changed, grades changed, sleep patterns changed? Once you pinpoint whether or not something in your life has changed, you can begin to move to the next step of rectifying the situation.

The best thing to do is to take deep breaths and relax. Remember that your friends and family are not there to judge you. These are the people that know you the best and love you. Your teachers are there to help you no matter how uncomfortable it can be talk in front of them. Just be yourself. If this is still a problems and it starts to affect your life you may want to seek the advice of a professional counselor/therapist. There is no shame in getting help.

2007-03-26 08:52:09 · answer #2 · answered by Justmecee 2 · 0 0

Personally.. and I don't mean this in any sarcastic tone whatsoever, mostly an encouraging tone, stop thinking so much in words. You seem to forget that tommorow your going to sit at a piano, take a big breath, and not hear any words for like.. a certain amount of time.. you need to start thinking about what emotions your going to translate into sound.

2016-03-17 02:38:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i used to have the same problem and if i smoked some weed it made it even worse. to this day i dont smoke weed anymore. what helped me, and keep in mind everyone is different, was yoga and and breathing exercises. i'm still kind of a nervous person but i am a substantially more comfortable in situations in which i have to talk to someone. i still have problems in large groups though- especially if i dont know anyone. so, i recomend that you try to silence your thoughts. when you can clear your mind, even for a moment, you will probably see some improvement.

hope i was of some help.

2007-03-26 08:49:24 · answer #4 · answered by Mr. G 2 · 0 0

I'm guessing you're a teenager, and I think that's pretty normal, as far as social development goes. We all start out a certain way, but along comes high school, and we start becoming hyper-sensitive to the way we present ourselves. Why can't we all stay little kids? Try to remember the comfortable way you interact with your friends when you don't think you're being judged, and maybe you can get that back.

2007-03-26 08:44:36 · answer #5 · answered by Shepherd 5 · 0 0

Say to yourself "nothing is this world is worthy of worry" and "let it go" or "don't sweat the small stuff". If you feel that this problem is preventing you from being yourself, then you should get a book on anxiety or see a therapist. Sometimes just telling a friend will help you break out of that silly shell!

2007-03-26 08:48:15 · answer #6 · answered by fanny gardener 3 · 0 0

i used to be like that and then i found out a way to stop i would tell myself constently how silly it is to be nervous. and i would pretend to be real confident towards my friends and in school n if u look confident people will treat u like your confident sometimes wen u act like something u end up being that person now im extremley confident i just got used to being like this.

2007-03-26 08:43:17 · answer #7 · answered by nicoley 2 · 0 0

Deep breathes, continually tell yourself it's no big deal. And if it gets worse go see your school councilor because it might be something more then nerves (anxiety). And constantly remind yourself that you know these people and their not going to say anything bad against whatever you say.

2007-03-26 08:47:48 · answer #8 · answered by Aurum 5 · 0 0

think about it people are just like you and realise you concern yourself to much with what you are going to say have the confidence that God gave you there is none like you what if you did say something you werent happy with its no big deal we all mess up(everyone) you are dwelling to much on what others think

2007-03-26 08:46:24 · answer #9 · answered by loveChrist 6 · 0 0

control your breathing.

2007-03-26 08:40:57 · answer #10 · answered by dr.macgruder 4 · 0 0

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