Like fvuckin seriously, I'm 16 yrs old and all the guys at my school care about is sex, drugs and fighting. I mean, check this myspace page myspace.com/prestonsdoughboy and listen to the songs, that will illustrate my point. They're always going on about how they have all these hoez and how they're ballaz, but enough is enough! I finally feel like I'm ready to be in a relationship, but there are no good guys left! Why are people like this and what should I do?
2007-03-26 08:36:05 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of the problem is that boys at your school have yet to learn how to control there behavior. I have never like the saying “they need to grow up"; since even at 30 I have the some urges to fight and have sex that I had at 16. However, I have learned that if I want to be happy and I do not want to end up in jail, I have to control those feelings. Therefore, it is not that they need to grow up, it that they need to learn how to behave. Unfortunately, most boys at your age are not able to do this.
A second problem think most school-aged girls have is that they need to learn to look past the "popular" boys and see all boys as potential relationships. No, I am not saying you should date those that scare you or freak you out, but I think that most girls will not date "the good boys" even if you find them. Let me give you an example of what I mean.
I was a "good" kid. I was not ugly, but I was not a jock either. Although this is just out of high school, I think it applies. I went on an extended trip (2 months) trip once with a large group of other 19 year olds. There was one girl I liked, and I hung out with the same group as she did. One time I even went for a walk alone with her. She even told me that I was such a nice person. Yet by the end of the trip, she ended up hanging out (and later dating) with a person who already had two kids at 19 and was in NA (drugs rehab). She went for the "bad guy" image. It seems to me that the "popular girls" always went out with the "Bad" boys. I think that most girls (especially at 16) do not want to look past the popular boys to go out with the good boys.
If you want a good man, then you need to date those who are trying to be good men. They may not be the most popular, but give them a chance.
2007-03-26 08:51:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're 16 why the hell do you wanna be in serious relationship? So you can end up pregnant and alone by 18. You need to slow things down. Make lots of guy friend and you'll find the one. You can not rush this there is plenty of time in your life for relationships don't waste your time on it now. Once you get older there will be More mature guys and options.
2007-03-26 15:44:00 · answer #2 · answered by BBW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First answerer has it right. Also, unfortunately a lot of good guys have no game or get converted to the types you listed because they think that will get them somewhere, or they quit trying because all the gals today are seemingly trying to be ho s and they want a decent girl and can't find one - or they lack the nerve to ask you and other nice girls out, having been shot down too many times - so ask one out if you find one - hint: a lot of them are quiet and not outgoing until they open up to you - so just give them a chance!
2007-03-26 15:44:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah this sounds like my school if i was you then i would try to get guys from other places and meet other people because that is what i have to do becaue all of the guys at my school are like just want sex because there are a lot of girls that just give it out and im not like that so i can never get a good guy so if i were you then i would just try to meet new people in other places
2007-03-26 15:44:24 · answer #4 · answered by tropical_sweety2587 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient, or suffer the consequences of a bad relationship that will leave scars. You are not really ready, you are somewhat ready, at that age. They feel that woman are whores because that is what they hang around with. Do not be one of them. They think this makes them a man. Pick one of those and you will be raising a little boy. WAIT FOR THE RIGHT TIME AND PERSON. Patient...patience...passion
2007-03-26 15:51:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Southern Iowa
2007-03-26 15:39:56 · answer #6 · answered by The Real McCoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most of these "bad boys" are putting on a front. They think that all girls like the bad boy persona. But if you take the time to get to know them you would see that they all are just big teddy bears that want some girl to tame their wild side. Sad But TRUE!!
2007-03-26 15:44:04 · answer #7 · answered by Kimmie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the good men have gone to Iraq.
Volunteer at a local VA hospital. Within two years you will find someone to marry.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 15:42:27 · answer #8 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, young lady it doesn't get any better because I'm 42 and still single. I have two grown sons and still haven't found Mr. Right yet. My advice to you, keep praying and asking GOD to send you a good man. Believe me, it's gonna have to take pray. Because you're right, the guys your age and my age, they are idiots.
2007-03-26 15:46:38 · answer #9 · answered by Gail S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two words
Older Men
2007-03-26 15:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by RedSnook 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋