My boyfriend of 10 years died in January and I recently "discovered" this guy who is really nice and sweet. I knew him before and he was still nice and sweet and now he wants us to be together. I really like him (more than the other guys and I really want to start a new relationship. But my friends are suggecting that it is too soon to start dating again. I truly believe that I'm over my grief and just wants to feel loved (like a woman) again. I don't want to "rush" into a relationship but I do really like this guy. HELP!!
2007-03-26 08:16:05 · 11 answers · asked by Viaa 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah. It's your life,& your rule.
2007-03-26 08:23:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BEFORE you jump into this new relationship, you need to understand that your "new" relationship is going to upset a lot of people...his family and friends and your family and friends. They may not be ready and may not understand how or why you are. You need to take a good long look at your emotional status and see if you think you need a man in your life to fill the void or to have sex with or if you actually think this is a real possibility for a new meaningful relationship. If it is the real deal, then waiting a few more months should not be an issue for either one of you. It's not easy to not have someone when you've had someone for so long. You need to re-establish who you are without a man. Being loved is not just physical and if thats all you are looking for, you need to be really careful.
2007-03-26 09:34:00 · answer #2 · answered by productjunkie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it....only YOU know if you are ready or not to move on. Just let the new guy know that you stilll love your past love and that it may take a little bit to get totally over him. The new guy should be supportive and know that 10 years to be with someone is a LONG time, but now you are still in love with the memories you two shared!
2007-03-26 08:23:14 · answer #3 · answered by Angelbaby79 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is too soon as well.
Take it slow and easy, don't rush back into a relationship because you want to feel loved and like a woman again (I saw that and immediately thought 'its too soon for you').
Take care and good luck and I'm sorry about your b/f.
2007-03-26 08:23:13 · answer #4 · answered by Terri 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea it's a little too soon but if u feel like he's the right guy ..go for it. When my bf died it took me over a year to find a good man.
2007-03-26 08:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by *VS* 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only a month.. it is a fact that the typical mourning period is one year...
and i should know.. i lost my hubby who i had been with for 4 years, 5 years ago.
and it took every bit of a year to stop crying every day.
it took 3 years to even date anyone else..
so i just can't fathom you wanting to date anyone yet.
i guess everyone is different. but if this guy is legit, then he should know better and back off for some time.. you do need some time to grieve.. whether you realize it or not.
2007-03-26 08:22:38 · answer #6 · answered by lil' angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no time table when it comes to grieve, however, you shouldn't rush into another relationship. Make sure this guy is trully for you. Make sure he has all the qualities that you want in a man.
2007-03-26 08:24:21 · answer #7 · answered by Ghanaian Princess 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
king david in the old testiment lost his son to death and mourned for three days. when he began to continue life as if nothing happened, his followes asked him why he wasnt still in mourning. Basically he told then that his son's death has no bearing on now and the future. you cannot allow the past to include the death of loved one to prevent any future blessings that come your way. date the man and begin anew. happiness begins when you want it.
2007-03-26 08:26:34 · answer #8 · answered by bulldog65 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also think that it's too soon for you to be dating considering what has happened.
P.S
I'm sorry for your loss
2007-03-26 08:21:11 · answer #9 · answered by J Vize 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
only you can know when you're ready... You're friends are going on how they THINK you're supposed to react... If you are moving on so quickly that's a good thing...
2007-03-26 08:20:36 · answer #10 · answered by lilmissheiress 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋