There is a person we'll call her Victoria, she dated a guy for 2 years they are split up and have been for about 1 month officially. Prior to the one month they were only intimate twice in seven months....it wasn't something that you could really call a relationship.
There is a guy that used to be there neighbor. Victoria used to think he was sort of cute, but was always faithful to her boyfriend.
The other night she had a dream that they went out and had a good time, now she has been thinking about him a lot and is debating calling him.
Is it too soon (only officially 1 month)
The other thing is that this guy is shorter than what she prefers.
Is she thinking to much into it? What should she do? Should she wait until some more her physical style comes around?
Should she not "settle" for a guy that doesn't seem the perfect physical match?
How should she approach calling him, last he knew she lived w/her boyfriend (almost a year ago)
2007-03-26 08:07:55 · 8 answers · asked by laughalot 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would tell Victoria to go for it. So, this guy may not match her physically perfect guy, but that doesn't mean that he's not right for her. And she wouldn't just "settle" for a guy...an attraction to physical appearances makes people seem shallow...and that's exactly what you DON'T want in a relationship. I would tell her to give him a call to see what he's been up to...things may unfold from there.
2007-03-26 08:13:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
We'll call you Victoria, for the sake of clarity.
You should give yourself a bit more time after ending such a long-standing relationship. Whether you were having sex or not, it's still a relationship that ended.
Second, if it's already on your mind that he's too short, you've prejudged him in spite of your dream. If you can't let go of the judgement, you're going to focus on it as a reason to end things if you get the slightest bit unhappy. If you're going to chat him up, be fair to him and do it without pre-judgements.
But chatting to a neighbor is never a wrong thing, and it can help you put some time and distance between the ex and the future.
2007-03-26 15:12:42 · answer #2 · answered by Jarien 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly you'll never know until you try,maybe at first you can just call him up casually meet somewhere for drinks get to know each other on a friend level then see where things go from there.
2007-03-26 15:13:35 · answer #3 · answered by Vash 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CALL HIM UP HAVE FUN DON'T MAKE BIG DEAL ABOUT THE HEIGHT THING WHO KNOWS YOU MAY REALLY END UP LIKING HIM A LOT AND FORGET ALL ABOUT THE HEIGHT THING....BUT IF YOU THINK THAT YOU ARE JUST SETTLING THEN MAY BE YOU NEED TO THINK ABOUT WHAT YOU EXPECT FROM THIS GUY AND BE HONEST WITH HIM YOU MAY END UP HAVING A LOT OF FUN TOGETHER...YOU NEVER KNOW UNTIL YOU TRY JUST BE HONEST YOU WOULDN'T WANT TO GET HURT OR HURT HIM ETHER....GOOD LUCK!
2007-03-26 15:21:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she keeps fantasizing about it she will build up unrealistic expectations about him and when they do go out she will feel disappointed. Better for her to get over it or go for it now.
2007-03-26 15:15:11 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think Victoria should ask this question by herself.
2007-03-26 15:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by peachy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing ventured, nothing gained. Honesty is the best policy.
2007-03-26 15:11:27 · answer #7 · answered by curiositycat 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you call her,then you will find out Won`t you.
2007-03-26 15:16:20 · answer #8 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋