Do I have a right to be angry? What should I do?

Question

I usually talk to my bf everyday, pretty much on and off all day long... but since friday we've talked all of maybe 10 minutes and texted maybe 4-5 messages. On friday I texted him and he was being short with me so I ended the conversation, that night I texted him again and was like "thanks for talking to me so much today" he said he was with his friends, and then got upset and was like "whatever its not like you tried to talk to me either"... and i didn't feel like arguing so i was just like whatever im not mad... Saturday, he called me on his way home, and talked to me for about 5 minutes, but he could tell i had an attitude, even tho i said i was fine... so he said he'd call me later... I texted him while i was out, and again with the short responses, so i stopped... I called him and midnight to tell him happy birthday, but he didn't answer, and called me back 5 minutes later, he was out with his best friend and his ex-gf (that he cheated on me with, but is dating someone now)

His best friend and ex, don't like eachother so I don't really know why they were all together, but we talked for like 2-3 minutes and then I let him go. Yesterday was his birthday, and i knew he was gonna be with friends so I didn't call... but he didn't call me last night either... and I didn't call because I didn't wanna be clingy, and I had been initiating conversations all weekend, and if he wanted to talk then i think he would've called. We still haven't talked, and he usually texts me everyday at the same time... This is the reason we broke up last time, and he told me it was because he didn't know how to tell me he was hanging out with some girl he liked. I don't know that this is the case this time, but I'm just upset that I haven't been called. Do I call or text him first? and do i have an attitude or even ask? Or should I just wait and see how long it's gonna take for him to decide to call me.

I'm actually not very young... and i know us talking a lot would seem annoying, but it's really not... and even more so he usually initiates the conversation... and I feel like im being a pest, and i maybe won't talk to him constantly, and he'll be like, baby!!! talk to me! so it's definitely not me annoying him...

Answer 1

Neither of you is communicating well, it seems like.

Stop texting and phone calling, and just get together for some one-on-one time. Talk to him about how awkward it is when he's a bit short, and you get distant, and then he gets cranky because you're distant, and you get more upset because he's being *more* short with you.... But you've both got to let go of being angry over little stuff.

This kind of miscommunication is a vicious cycle, and you're only going to break it by communicating differently.

Answer 2

I'm going to say that the glimmer and glitz of that lusty feeling has worn off and he's trying to tell you only not with his words. First, he's not communicating as much, second, he's going out at weird hours, just like a tom cat, and then he tells you he's out with his best friend and exgirlfriend.

My advice is to stop calling, stop texting, stop dead cold. Give him peace and quiet. If he comes back to you, then good. If not, then you are so much better off.

Answer 3

Ok well i can tell you're very young. You're overreacting for sure, lots of couples (unless they're married) avoid talking every day since it keeps the mystery alive. You're annoying him. I get where you're coming from but he needs his space. Just let him come to you and you'll both feel much better, trust me.

Answer 4

well I would be upset to, handing out with the ex is bad news and he should not be short with you just because he was with his friends

Answer 5

sounds like he might be cheating again with her. If he did it once he will again. why did you take him back when he cheated before? Be mad and get rid of him