This guy I'm talking with right now makes me cry like every day, and he always says sorry and i always forgive him. My question is okay so whenever we make up he always wants to know if i cried. I always tell him the truth which is that i do cry, but my friends tell me not to tell him anymore becuase it makes him feel like he has control over me or something like that? Should i tell him that i cried when he asks, or no?
2007-03-26 08:02:37 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I mean crying more than let's say, 10 times. And yes it's daily. It's becuase he "used" to smoke weed. And he tells me that he stoped becuase of me. But he always gets mad at me for no reason and when he does get mad, he says i'm annoying and how he's sick of me and he does'nt care anymore and how he started again. It makes me feel so guilty like it's my fault. And today he started making rules like on how we can only talks on mon. tues. and fri. for 1 hour.
2007-03-26 08:50:04 · update #1
oh i still wasn't specific about the crying. I cry becuase i care about him and i cant stand to see him hurt himself like that and also becuase he lies to me and says he's stopped then he gpes behind my back and does it some more. I'm starting to think he likes to mess with my head. I just don't want him smoking anymore even if he does the worst part is that he lies to me about it, why can't he be straight up with me? One day he'll tell me he does and make a big deal about it and make me cry after saying really mean things then he calls back at night and says "just kidding!" I'm starting to think he just says that so i wont be mad at him?
2007-03-26 08:54:26 · update #2
Well its obvious to me that your attempts to stop him from smoking are going to be wasted on him. If you are willing to put up with him high all the time then you should just stop complaining about it. If you don't your man to smoke then you probably need to find a new man, because he doesn't care about you wishes to stop smoking.
The question you should be asking yourself is "Do I want to deal with his habit?" If you don't want to just deal with it you should leave him.
2007-04-03 08:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rumin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check this out....if he is being mean and saying you are annoying then its because he probably has stopped smoking weed. Those are some symptoms of withdrawl...always snapping, seems depressed at times, very moody. And stop crying cuz homeboy could care less if you cry or not. If he did care he wouldn't make you cry. It doesn't have to do with control issues...he just gets off in knowing that your emotions get the best of you and when he can make you stop crying he feels a certain kinda way. This is not a healthy relationship and you need to think about moving on.
2007-04-03 05:50:02 · answer #2 · answered by Chen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's true for the most part. I don't really know how to explain it..but I can tell you about me and my ex.
After we broke up (really bad) He didn't know if I cried or not because I was so pissed off. So he cried himself. When he found out that i cried for days, he never even made his face wince. It drives some guys crazy to see a girl not interested in them.
Yet, its kind of hard to answer because I know ALOT of guys that HATE to see girls cry and would beat up Jesus himself if he made a girl cry, but then again I know the same amount of guys that wouldn't give a s h i t if she was chocking to death in the middle of a desert on a cactus...
but that probably doesn't answer your question lol..but your friends are right. Its none of his business if you cried anyway, and it does show weakness. Guys like strong independant women
2007-03-26 08:09:18 · answer #3 · answered by Déjà Vu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It sounds a little like Stockholm Syndrome or something, and he's using your emotions to get control from you, you're right. Be honest. If it's no, then let it be no!! Maybe tell him you need a break from the relationship because it's too heavy or upsetting from you. Relationships should be a little more fun, you know!! If he expects to hurt you emotionally every day, let him know that you need some time off!! Maybe he can figure out this isn't normal.
2007-03-26 08:07:40 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm why does he ask you when you are making out does he find it hot that he makes you cry
I'm sorry Hun but a really relationship is where you are both happy and not just one person you are in a one sided relationship and you should have enough confidence to not be with this guy
try working on how you see yourself and then go back to seeing him i promise you if you do this you will feel ten times better and you will be able to handle this guy so he doesn't make you cry (and the best way to handle him is to dump him so he knows you aren't his little puppet)
2007-03-26 08:08:54 · answer #5 · answered by carmelfude2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This dude aint right in the head, and neither are you because you keep forgiving him! Try telling him " NO I didn't cry " and see what transpires. If he gets irrate, then you know what he's all about !! I can't tell you what to do, but I can suggest that you should be extra carefull with nuckle heads like this one!! Good Luck because you're gonna need it !!!
2007-03-26 08:12:58 · answer #6 · answered by Efrain P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isnt the right question. If someone you love makes you feel so bad that you cry, then you shouldnt be with them in the first place. Love is a battle, but not a war.
2007-04-03 08:11:17 · answer #7 · answered by Holden Caulfield 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this has happened multiple times (like, more than three), I would probably stop telling him that you have cried. He seems to get a power trip from knowing he can make you cry. I'm not sure that's healthy.
2007-03-26 08:06:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time he asks if you cried say "I use to cry over you but I don't anymore. You made me cry so often that I'm done crying over you"
Honestly some jerk that makes you cry is NOT worth your time!
I had a bf who made me cry all the time and then he slept with my friends....I stopped crying over him then!
2007-03-26 08:07:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would STOP crying everyday over this dude...then you can tell him the truth..
If the dude makes you cry all the time then why bother being in a relationship with him....
Its a big fat waste of time
2007-03-26 08:06:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋