My friend and I have been had a few arguments on and off because I am against her fancying a certain man. My reasons are that (in no particular order):
a)he's newly married
b)he's her manager in the family business
c)he's a relative of mine
d)he's over 10 years older than her
e)to be honest he's quite a jerk in general, but that's just my opinion
Do I have a point or am I being out of order? I can just see so many problems with this man that I really don't like how she's been sucked in by him, even though she says she's not. I think she's quite confused about how much she likes him to be honest because he's the first man to have even looked at her in an admiring way. He's a bit of flirt, but he's not doing anything outrageous, although he is playing her around by blowing hot and cold with her. I just don't want her to be hurt and to think that he's the only man in the world.
2007-03-26 07:56:44 · 5 answers · asked by Lawlotr 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow - it's hard being a good friend isn't it?
I think that the fact that this man is newly married should certainly be enough of a reason not to get involved, but being a manager in the business is certainly not any better and
at the risk of being totally rude, How broken is your friend that this guy's own FAMILY (you) thinks he's kind of jerk and she still wants to be an adulterous second place?
I'm sorry this is what you have to deal with....
2007-03-26 08:06:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but I am seething mad here. I am the friend in question. The poster is my best friend of 7 years. This is absurd and I am furious at the absurdity of this post. I could explain all of the OP's points but I really can't be bothered.
Originally (September) I was sucked in as had never had any attention- not any more, I realised my mistake.
I think he has a nice face, he is a good looking man.
END. OF. So please, no more posts about oh you poor thing, because I'm getting endless phone calls screaming at me for being selfish and I'm sitting here thinking 'I only said he has a nice face'.
This is not meant to offend anyone and she is my best friend in the world but this is getting insane now..... :o(
2007-03-27 05:52:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not out of line, you are trying to look out for your friends best interest. Although, your friend appears to be in denial and your words are upsetting her because she does not want to accept the truth. You must now try your hardest just to keep out of it. You already warned her, it is up to her to either accept what you told her or not to accept it. I know it is hard to watch your friend make a huge mistake such as the one she is making, but I am afraid there is nothing more you can do other than what you already have done. Hope one day she will open up her eyes and see that what you are telling her is in fact the truth. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-26 16:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, you just can't win some people over with logic. I will bet this girl WANTS to be hurt because she thinks that's what she deserves at some level.
Tell her to F--- him and get it over with, that she will get hurt but you will be there for her when it happens.
Then you use that info to blackmail the bastard. He deserves it!
2007-03-26 15:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, just keep warning her, but let her learn by herself, thats the best way to learn, not nessecarily the easiest, though
2007-03-26 15:01:06 · answer #5 · answered by Bosquet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋