Saturday night I was at a party and one of my friends that just broke up with her boyfriend, came up to me. she asked me if i wanted to have sex with her. She is a very attractive girl but i don't just sleep with girls that i'm not dating. She also has low self esteem and thinks she has to sleep with guys so they will like her. I told her no but before I could say anything else she started crying and ran out the door. I chased her but she got in her truck and drove away. I talked to one of are mutual friends and i guess the reason this girl broke up with her boyfriend was to date me. But she did not think she was good enough for me. By this morning, before i had a chance to tell her that i like her she was back together with her boyfriend.I told her how i felt but she is mad at me for turning her down. I really like her but don't know what to do now.
2007-03-26 07:55:42 · 7 answers · asked by The Real McCoy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well that is commendable of you to have not used her that many men would. It is nice that you like her but first before you go through the aggravasion of getting her ask yourself a few questions.
1. If she likes another guy while dating you will she dump you like hot coal for them.
2. Do you want a women that has such low self-esteem she has to sleep with people to get that boost? Cause that is a high risk for a cheater right there.
3. Do you want to spend every day boosting her self esteem when you could be enjoying a wonderful walk in the park or movie with nothing being said with a women that has respect for herself.
If you are willing to deal with those issues, keep trying to talk to her, she could just be playing hard to get now. Send her a card. If you don't want to really honestly deal with it, send her a card saying sorry you hurt her feelings but you hope to remain friends. As her friend (with out sleeping with her) maybe you could boost her self-esteem enough to make her relationship worthy.
***some one with prior self esteem issues***
2007-03-26 08:03:46 · answer #1 · answered by 20+ years and still in-love! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like trouble... steer clear from her. If she want's to be friends OK... but don't get into a romantic relationship with this kind of emotional roller coaster. She has self esteem problems that will only lead to emotional problems with her bf/husband down the road. This type of person... she only gains happiness superfficallly....down the road, She will only blame her unhappiness on her spouse/significant other.
2007-03-26 15:08:09 · answer #2 · answered by Darren 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buddy.....take a chill pill.....!!!
You were the backup guy who also refused her.........please forget about her & look ahead.
If she were interested in you in the first place then she woun't have bounced back on her boyfriend like that.
Anyways what kind of a girl breaks-off in the afternoon & ask another guy to sleep with her in the evening.
And please - leave the low self esteem stuff for the shrinks.
2007-03-26 15:03:22 · answer #3 · answered by Radical 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it´s not ur fault and honestly she should just open her eyes and c that u just dont go around having sex with everyone and that she should be thankfull that u didnt take advantage of her because she just broke up with her bf. tell her u like her and that u would rather get to know someone firts eg. date. and the take it further
good luck
2007-03-26 15:01:24 · answer #4 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think u should leave her alone. Why would u want to be with someone who comes up to u and randomly asks u to have sex. You obviously have more sense than her so u should probably find someone on ur own level.
2007-03-26 15:00:47 · answer #5 · answered by *VS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is too late now to look back.. go find ur self another girl
2007-03-26 15:00:13 · answer #6 · answered by unverified 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give her time and space.
don't think about this too much... she's your g-friend's friend, you did the right thing.
if you are meant to be, she ll come back in time.
2007-03-26 15:00:00 · answer #7 · answered by Shaana 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋