This guy and I hung out for about two months, but we never once talked about what we were, so I decided to initiate a conversation about it. He then informed me that he still had feelings for another girl, which he realized about two weeks before, and that he thought he should tell me because he wasn't being fair to me. We talked again the next weekend and agreed we were friends, but when he saw me at work the next day (I work with his friends), he said something to all of them, but looked at me and didn't say anything. I talked to his friend, who then talked to him in an effort to salvage our friendship. That night, he IMed me and told me that just because he was somewhat interested in another girl and didn't want a relationship with me, it didn't mean he wasn't interested in me and cared about me as well.
2007-03-26 07:51:30 · 11 answers · asked by thisday.andage 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yesterday, on my way to work, I saw him walking and he was on his phone. I assumed he would just say hi and keep walking, but he walked towards me, stopped, ended his phone call, and then talked to me for awhile. Then he said that I should stop by after work. I ended up going to his apartment afterwards, and we hung out, and he never once tried to make a move like he used to, and everything was pretty good. After staying for a half hour, I did give him a hug and kissed him when I left.
I’m really just wondering…what is going through his head? And what should I do about all of this?
I know this was long, but thanks for your time.
2007-03-26 07:51:44 · update #1
sounds like he's really just not interested. maybe he is just telling the truth... and just wants a good friend he can go to.
2007-03-26 07:55:01 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah Jones101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if he is still not over a prior relationship and is working through it. Better to give him the time he needs to work out whatever issues he has regarding this prior relationship. By this I mean it would be best for you not to involve yourself at all with him other than just being his friend without the benefits. If you do give him more when he himself already told you he is still in the mist of this prior relationship, I am afraid you will end up feeling hurt and used. Look out for what is best for you. Best of luck to you!
2007-03-26 14:58:47 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems he isn't sure what he wants and sounds to me like he wants to keep you around as a safety net in case the other girl doesn't work out.
I think it is great he just wants to be friends and if you two have not been intimate then it is easier to handle. However, if you have been intimate, being friends will be difficult and I would say tell him good bye until he figures out what he wants.
2007-03-26 14:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by belen2499 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys make this mistake all the time.i know bc im one of them. They first go for the girl that has no values and wants to have quote "fun" and that attracts him in one way,but its never good for a long relationship,maybe just a one night stand.Then they relize the girl theyve wanted all along is right infront of them,and that theyve been treating them pretty harsh. We then try to make it right. He's probably really into u but just in case take it slow, he cud be just one of those rare few that only want sex. hope this helps!
2007-03-26 15:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by ilovehur42 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're setting yourself up for heartbreak. And you will be to blame, because he is being somewhat honest with you. I think he's keeping you on the back burner until he find out out what's going to happen with the other girl. You deserve better.
2007-03-26 15:03:10 · answer #5 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He values your relationship..if you think that it is giving you mixed feelings i would keep a distance from him...cause he already told you that he just wants to be friends and it could just be a heart break after a heart break if you like this guy.
2007-03-26 14:57:44 · answer #6 · answered by Bad Mood 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some time to process his thoughts so its best to let him know ur still interested but that ur gonna give him some space.
2007-03-26 14:58:59 · answer #7 · answered by G-BOY 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he is interested, just thinks it wouldn't be fair to both of you if he made a move while you know that he likes someone else a bit more.
2007-03-26 14:57:59 · answer #8 · answered by Tawddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants you as a friend for right now. Something may happen somewhere down the line, but now you should be his b-u-d-d-and-y.
2007-03-26 14:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably sex. Maybe the girl he liked dumped him. I WOULDN'T trust him.
2007-03-26 14:56:12 · answer #10 · answered by Constitution 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋