How do I get myself out of this relationship?

Question

Me and my ex broke up after 6 months, at which point after talking to eachother, it was revealed to me that I had been cheated on (long distance) throughout most of our relationship... we broke up fro a month, and then they asked me to get back together... I hesitated because of what had happened, but I said yes anyway. we missed eachother, and were acting like we were together throughout most of our "break up"... I had already programmed myself to be okay with being "just friends" so i didn't get hurt, but i did it anyway for them, despite the fact that I'd been told that they didn't think they could be faithful with our distance right now. Things were slow at first but lately they've been great, until this weekend... And now I'm suspicious again because we've had brief conversations since Friday, and haven't really talked, when we normally talk constantly. I'm realizing that I made the wrong decision of getting back together. I don't want to just break up with out a justified reason.

But I need to get out... I don't just want to end it now, because we haven't talked, and I look like the jealous, clingy, needy girlfriend, and this is my way of retaliating for being pretty much ignored... How can I break up without looking petty?

Answer 1

If this relationship is not making u happy at the moment, if u are feeling needy, clingy , suspicious and jealous, then I do think that for your own good u should have a talk with your current mate. Nothing is better than to stop feeling all these suppositions on your own and to confront your bf..Have u ever confronted him about the cheating he had before?..If not., then its about time ..to talking this out, and laying out what you expect from a relationship....It's not fair for you to not be feeling you are worth and loved by him. You have worth as a woman and u have no need to be after him or feeling ignored by him either. You need to speak out your feelings in order to be understood and respected ..IF this is not fulfilled its time for thi person to hit the road....You deserve better ..unless u plan to ...continue being doubtful.

Answer 2

To be honest, you look petty by clinging to this relationship. Just tell him that you are not at the place in your life to be in a relationship and that you need to go your own way. And then just stop responding to his texts, emails, phone calls. He'll get the hint fast enough. You can't look clingy if you don't answer the phone right?

Answer 3

i would just tell him that "ive been thinking about the situation were in and what happened between us (him cheating) and i think its a bad idea to keep the relationship going us getting back together was a mistake. he ovbiously can not handle a long distance relationship. we can be just friends (if you want). but as a woman (you) dont deserve to bein a unfaithfull relationship." in my opinion it would be very very bad to keep this relationship going when you allready know he has cheated on you multiple times in the past. if u plan on being long term it wont work u will never forget what he has done to you and u dont deserve it either. tell him u need to be with someone you can trust to be faithfull to you

Answer 4

Who cares if you LOOK petty. As long as you know the reasons behind the break up. You can explain to him your point of view but to be honest he will believe what he wants to anyway.
Just do it. And next time keep him as an ex.

Answer 5

Simple. Very courteously and very firmly explain that you no longer wish to have a relationship with this person and stick to it. You do not need to explain any reasons, just end it.

Answer 6

just tell him you think you made a mistake. Be honest -- you dont need to be with a cheater - tell him the trust is gone, and you can't help that.