She is 4 1/2 and wont poo in the toilet. Mom just kind of blows it off but I think its time to take care of it. She will be in school soon and she should be poo in the potty by now. Do you have suggestions on how to help her, help her daughter?
2007-03-26 07:40:15 · 3 answers · asked by Belle 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
My son wouldn't poop in the toilet either for quite some time because he was afraid too. No matter what I did to try and convince him it was safe, he just wouldn't do it. I tried everything, then about two weeks ago, my oldest daughter noticed he was squatting and asked him what was wrong, he told her he needed to poop. She said, well....go to the toilet. She didn't think he'd do it because she knows how he feels about it, but he did..........and he did it on his own. He was so proud of himself and we rewarded him big time. He's went every since. My oldest son had a hard time going number two on the toilet also. It wasn't until he had diarreah that I could get him to use it. I just explained that if he didn't like the diaper rashes it caused, he should try the toilet. He did, and has used it every since also. It could be many issues with the child. It could be that when the child needs to go......it starts to come out before they can make it to the toilet. Sometimes children have really hard stools and it's painful. It makes them scared to even go at all. Other times it's just a thing with control. They can control this and you can't. If that is the case....they will have to decide this on their own. Whatever you do, do NOT push them into this. This makes it worse. My youngest started hiding it from me and not telling me because he was ashamed of it. I even held him on the toilet for less than three minutes and it made it all worse. You shouldn't put pull ups on them no matter what, because then they think, why should I bother, mom will clean it up. Make them put the poop in the toilet themselves, and the underwear in the dirty clothes. Make them clean themselves up on their own, just re-check that they are clean. It teaches them that they have some consequences for their behavior and choices they make. Good luck.
2007-03-30 06:48:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jessie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has been potty trained except for stool for a while, there is probably some deeper issue at work, either physical or psychological. Kids can get weird ideas in their heads! In the end, it is up to your friend what to do about her child, but I would suggest she seek advice from a pediatrician about possible root causes for the behavior, and about ways to seek a solution.
In general, children who aren't potty trained (either at all, or partially) when they start school will quickly WANT to be potty trained when they get teased by other kids for still wearing diapers. It's a little bit cruel to let them start off that way, but forcing a child into potty training can also have bad consequences.
2007-03-27 06:52:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
is she still wearing diapers?
2007-03-27 06:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by lilpinay 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋