What will happen to us after a threesome???

Question

I've been with my b/f for a little over a year. We live together and love each other very much!! Lately, hes been talking about threesome a lot (FFM). He often talks about it during sex and sometimes mentions my girlfriends... It really turns him on and he wants it very much. The thing is,i would try it doubtless if i didnt love him,with someone i dont care about. He says he would only do it if i love him the same after. I dont quiet get how he can love me so much,care about it me and want to **** some random chick at the same time.Why? Doesnt he think he will hurt me? I dont know what to do now... If i dont do it,will he be always thinking about it and eventually live it out with someone else...Or if i say yes,will i hate him after???Will he always want it,or something else too?? How the things gonna go after? Please HELP!!! I know he will still love me,but things probably will get different...

Answer 1

Bad bad bad bad idea.

Did I mention what a bad idea I think this would be? Nothing good can come out of it. Would you be able to respect yourself after doing this? You're basically allowing your bf to be with another girl and you're submitting yourself to a lesbian experience.

Answer 2

3somes will surely break up a relationship, it's devistating 2 the other person who doesn't really want a 3 some, if he wants a 3 some that bad he needs 2 be single, or find a gf who can def handle him having sex/sexual contact w/ another woman. IF you clearly express 2 him that you dont want a 3 some b/c you are aware that a lot of things will change n that you don't want ne thing 2 ruin your relationship n he still keeps pushing the issue then he doesnt really love you. It's just not worth it. Tell him how you feel, if he cant get over it then the only thing 2 do is leave him

Answer 3

What are you thinking? He does NOT love you! Any man who truly loves his woman wouldn't even need a second woman to spice things up.

The Playboy Advisor talks about this often (it's a column in Playboy). Two things usually happen. He'll have fun, but start requesting the threesome more and more, eventually you will be moved out of the equation. Two, you'll forever regret doing this and start questioning the value of your relationship, you'll regret sharing someone you loved. You're bf will most likely start having an affair with the friend you chose (or anyone else) afterall, if it's okay to sleep with her in a threesome, it's okay to sleep with her whenever.

You obviously have serious doubts about doing this so put your foot down and say no! After having a threesome you're relationship will change drastically.

But put him to the test, tell him you'll have a threesome but FIRST you want to do it with him and another man (of your choice), his true colors will show. If he's allowed to have sex with another man, you're entitled to have one with another man. If he says yes, but him first, say NO, only under your conditions of you going first.
Most likely he won't be able to follow through, and you'll then realize what a selfish prick you've been dating.

You're too good for him, girl! Find a man that will happily dedicate the rest of his life (and his penis) exlusively to YOU! You deserve it!

Answer 4

I've had a few threesomes that have gone well, and brought my wife and I closer together.

I hope that will add some weight when I tell you that you need to leave this relationship right now. I don't think there's anything wrong with what he wants, but you're taking it *way* to hard. Which probably means he's pushing too hard. If you really believe that he would go behind your back and cheat on you with two other girls just to live out a fantasy, then you don't have the trust that it takes to have a committed relationship.

There's nothing wrong with wanting something your partner doesn't want. I'm sure you want things your boyfriend doesn't want. This doesn't mean you're going to sneek out behind his back and start doing them with other guys. Either learn to trust him, and have the confidence to tell him it's never going to happen, or leave and find someone you can trust. Simple as that.

Answer 5

First off, I would wait it out as long as you can cause you are only for a short amount of time. You sound young too. From experience and now my ex. (I'm 34) He always talked about it mostly during sex. Finally I did do it but made him promise there was to be no sex on his part with the other women. He was not to kiss her on the mouth or have intercourse with her. The turn on to him was more or less watching girl on girl. It didn't stop after that, meaning, he wanted it again and I said no so it’s hard to say what will happen in your case. First off, if your going to do it, I would not suggest with someone that you are very close with cause then your going to get crazy if all of you are together again just hanging out. I think you need to set boundaries so you don't get hurt and I think you need to tell him it will be a one time deal. Ask him what he wants before you do it? If you're questioning it now, I don't think you would be okay with him having intercourse with her. Whatever you do, be careful. I look back now and wonder why I allowed myself to do it to please him, we were together for 6 years and married but it wasn't for me at all. The man that I am with now, would never ask me to do it and that is how it should be.

Answer 6

You have fallen into a common trap. Keeping your boyfriend happy at your expense.

If you do this, you will likely not enjoy it, and your relationship will change.

Consider finding a guy that doesn't want a threesome.

Or tell him, "Well you know, damn, man, I want to see you have hot gay sex with some other guy. You on the bottom, just to see you down there, taking it. Oh, no, I won't join, I just want to watch and if it works out, maybe do it some more, you with these other guys, me never joining in. Maybe you give blowjobs to a few guys at once. Damn, imagine you beneath a big old horse or a donkey!"

Something to make him wake the **** up and realize how personal this is to you.

Then he might get the idea. Most guys would.

Good luck. I once saw this guy in the supermarket, with his girlfriend, looking at all these porn magazines, telling his woman, "yeah someone like that, or like this.. what do you think? And she was all "no, I don't think so, No. No. NO."

He kept it up and kept it up. So I walked up and said, hey man, are you looking for a threesome? I see you with all those magazines there. Maybe you need to be looking in this one.. and picked up a playgirl, and handed it to him. I then said, yeah, KY is in the pharmacy. Make sure you use a condom.

Then i gave him a slap on the butt, and said, yeah, man, don't let all that meat go to waste.

His girlfriend started laughing, and I just walked off, like I was Dr. Phil, and had just solved his problem.

I think I solved HER problem.

Again, good luck.

Answer 7

He's selfish, letting his silly little boy fantasies jepordize a great relationship.

Trust me, I've been in my share of threesomes and they never, ever work out for the guy the way guys think they will. And if you do it for him, without wanting to yourself, you will destroy the relationship.

Tell him this honey: That what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

That you will agree to invite one of your friends to make love to the both of you....IF and ONLY IF he agrees to let some big stud screw you while he plays with the guys sack.

I bet that changes his mind about any 'threesome' action.

Answer 8

Ok If you Don't want to do it don't do it and the fact that you are having so many doubts now makes me think they will definatly be there afterwards and they maybe worse i believe that if he did truely love you He absolutly would not want to bring that kind of drama into your life and if his trying to do this because hes board then u truley aren't the person for him nor him for you ~ hope this helps

Answer 9

You'll end up getting jealous and it'll ruin your realtionship. You two ar enot old enough to be mature about the consequences. I know plenty of people that have been in that situation and the result is ALWAYS the same. Somebody ALWAYS ends up getting hurt.

Answer 10

If you do it, he needs to be very careful with your feelings. He has to give u extra affection and attention, before, during and after, and not go crazy over the other girl more than you! You have to know you are his favorite. This situation CAN be traumatic, very easily. But it could be ok if the guy is smart and careful. He has to be cool with the other girl, do not neglect you for a second! He has to give you alot of affection and compliments after. Have him read this. Good luck!!!

Answer 11

it doesnt sound to me like its something your into, so dont do it. just explain to him that you dont want a 3 way with another female. would you want a male?
personaly I wouldnt want to have a 3 way, cause after I would never know if it caused jelousy or anger or what not. sugest an alternative to spice things up, blindfold him and tie him down, buy some toys... looks like he needs more.