This is kinda funny, sad, but true. I dated two wonderful people (not simultaneously, though) for a decent amount of time. I had invested so much emotion and time into both relationships, and as a result, have deep feelings for both of my exes, and vice versa. The really ironic thing is how both relationships ended: we never ended, we just fell off...communication became distant, then ceased. Time passes, and I don't hear from him for a while. Then, out the blue, he calls and we talk. I ask what happened to us, we argue, point the finger at the other, I get frustrated and hang up. He'll call back, we'll talk, everything'll be cool. We keep in touch, but I find myself questioning myself and his motives. Do I really wanna do this again??? I know I must make up my mind, but either way I lose. Somebody help me, please...
2007-03-26 07:29:46 · 11 answers · asked by Coko 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay...let me be clear. When I refer to "he" or "him", the scenario fits both parties. I mean, things happened so much alike, I wonder if God is tryna tell me something. History does repeat itself, but damn!
2007-03-26 07:46:09 · update #1
its appears to me you are only talking about one of your two men so maybe thats who you really want to be with and maybe thats who you should pick
2007-03-26 07:36:44 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ Mae ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I too love 2 people. I'm married to one ant the other is a family member. Not blood family. The situation between us is exactly as you describe. I suggest you end all contact and stop the on again off again thing. If it hasn't worked out by now it never will. The two of you keep remembering what was good about the relationship and so you try again only to find what was wrong and then it's over again. You owe it to each other to stop it. Move, change your phone number anything to eliminate any further contact. My love is a family member so that is not possible for me so I have to live with the agony of family gatherings and just being social. I wish you well.
2007-04-03 04:27:36 · answer #2 · answered by richmorecock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 23:34:39 · answer #3 · answered by console 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you were in church did the pastor ever tell you if you have to wonder if you are going to heaven then you probably aren't? Same with this relationship. If you have to question yourself about if you want to go on with this again then that is your heart, and your brains way of telling you that it doesn't want to. Move on don't ever be in the business of going backward. A lot of men do this because they know women and they know if you were in love or loved them a lot that you will more than likely get back with them. We have to kill this stigma and you can start by not getting back with him. He left and just stopped talking to you what makes you think he will me a man this time and tell you what is on his mind?
2007-04-03 06:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by Justina D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is trying to tell you: if a guy calls you up after you haven't seen him in a while, after having broken up, and the two of you argue... then you can figure this is not going to be a winning relationship the second time around either!
2007-04-03 07:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You put your finger on the real question. Do you really want to do this again? Do you? This is the question you must answer within yourself and if you really believe things have changed then act accordingly but if not then don't get involved again. It is that simple. Listen to your heart and really listen to what words your ex is using and saying.
2007-03-26 07:34:56 · answer #6 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, they way I see it, is if they both ended that way, and you still have feelings for them both, you should probably move on to someone new. The reason I say that is because if you pick one or the other, you're always going to wonder, well, would it have been better with him? It might be easier and healthier on your to forget them both at the same time and move on to someone else that just might be better.
2007-04-03 04:19:19 · answer #7 · answered by IndiHippi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it ended because y'all stopped calling each other, it may be a sign that it tis truly over. So you should move on and find someone that can be real with you.
2007-03-26 07:36:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning his motives then don't bother getting back together. See--plain and simple.
2007-03-26 07:34:32 · answer #9 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well just ask what his motives are be upfront about your feelings but it seems like he just wants sex honestly and he feels confertable asking you but doesnt it is really confusing how guys act
2007-04-03 07:09:41 · answer #10 · answered by Angel eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋