Should I go back with my ex??

Question

When I was 17 I started dating a guy that was 15 at the time. I was his first real girlfriend and all that. I will admit that at first I treated him kinda bad and we got over that and we ended up being together for about a year and a half. He wanted to see other people cuz I was his first real gf and he wanted to see what else was out there.
Well it was a kinda bad break up and we didn't talk for 5 months. Then we got back together for a short period of time but I was distant cuz i thought thats what he wanted so he ended up leaving again.
Couple months go by.. Well now im seeing a guy that i really like but see no future with.Well me and my ex started talking again and cleared up a lot of things between us. He told me that leaving me was the biggest mistake he ever made and that he still loves me.
The big thing here is that i am still in love with him, but no one wants to see us together again because hes already hurt me before, but i think he honestly wants to make things work...

I'm 19 now and hes about to be 18. He is not in college yet but is planning on going.

Answer 1

if you love each other give it a try. time has passed and you have both matured

Answer 2

I would get back together, but after a long time.... reason - I think that all this happened because you both were way too young to be in a serious relationship. To me that's what all this sounded like. When you are 15 & 17 you are supposed to be dating as many people as possible for a reason, you will change so much that it will never work out. This is coming from someone that got married 2 months out of high school & now at 29 & divorced - I can tell you that I'm not even close to being the same person I was then - so how could I have thought I could be in marriage at that age.

Answer 3

This is a very personal decision; however, for the same reason you shouldn't care about what others care. Think about this: whenever you had trouble with him, people probably had some "stuff" to talk about. If you get back together, they WILL talk but who cares!? It is between both of you, DO NOT let others ruin what could potentially be your happy ending. Also, DO think it over throughly. Be truthful with him and tell him exactly how you feel. Being clear with each other will guarantee a better communication and happiness. As I said before, never allow what others think or say to intervene with your relationships. Not even your parents. At the end of the day, it is you and only you who will have to deal with the issue.

Answer 4

...Ex's are usually ex's for a reason hun. Surely you two love each other hun...even after the fact...but nobody here can put a big old guarantee on nothing for your future otherwise. That's gonna be up to the attitudes and tendencies of you two kids really. Most people don't change much darling. Past disagreements are usually gonna end up with the same end results honey...but they are only moments in time too... if you can get past these moments. Satisfaction is a moment hun...so try to sustain some of that stuff with your ex babe. To heck with what everybody else thinks about you two darling. Who knows what you want simply more then YOU two really? Toss the anxiety and give it a try I suppose. Hopefully maturity between you two has increased to the point of where you two can make tough decisions with one another anyways. If not?...well then back to the drawing board I suppose. What else is new darling? Good luck to both of you two.

Answer 5

So he is about 18 now? Many people promise things to hook and bait (even if its their original intention of following through on those promises) and then break the promises later on down the line. Then you find yourself coming up with excuses to justify your getting back together and staying with him, regardless of his breaking the original promises. Dont break up with someone to date someone else. I bet that you were distant from him, the second time around, because he hurt you in wanting to see other people!! You both might need a little more growing up and apart time before you decide to get back together. Is he in college yet?

Just to add:
Now, he is turning this around (although he may not know it) and he is repeating the behavior of thinking that it is ok to break up with someone to date other people!!! You are dating someone else. Get it? Do you think that it is ok to break up with someone to date other people? If you condone this behavior now, you will potentially and more than likely see this repeated again in the future. As in, he may decide, after you get married, that he isn't happy with his marriage and want to seek the companionship of someone else. I might be wrong...but it seems to be the beginning of a pattern.

Answer 6

Well, taking a break for seeing other people was obviously both of your ideas. YOu said yourself that you treated him badly 2 times before, so what's changed now? How would you treat him? Are you looking for Mr. Right or Mr. Right Now? I'd think about that.

Answer 7

when he first told u that he wanted to see other people that means he wanna have sex with other people. Now I bet is luck ran out and he like u back.

You only 17 give yourself sometime to meet other people have fun when u young

Answer 8

Never go back. You made a mistake the first time so accept it and move on.

Answer 9

thats tough.. the only way to see if he really does wanna make it work is to go back out with him. just be prepared to get hurt. but dont let that bring you relationship down. i hope it works out
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Answer 10

Give up, grow up, learn the lessons the relationship had to teach and move on.

Answer 11

it's not like you are looking to get married to him...
he can prove him self one way or the other right so i mean as long as he wasn't mean or hateful to you before then you could give it a try.. the other people will eventual get use to...