I am very nice fun-loving and caring. I've also been told that I'm beautiful. Why am I still single? 31 no kid

Question

I'm also kinda spoiled and can be a little bossy. I'm just afraid that I may never find my husband and have kids. I'm not getting any younger. People say i should go to church more often and may find somebody there. I dont know what to do.

Answer 1

I would say that you are fun loving and caring because you are single, and no kids. Consider yourself lucky. You have had the chances that a lot of women your age haven't had. Being married is not all what it is cracked up to be anyways. You will find someone when you least expect to. In the meantime, going to church is a good idea, you never no where he is hiding..

Answer 2

Only you know the answer to that. It's probably something you're doing wrong, or something you aren't doing. It might be aggravated if you live in a small town without too many eligible bachelors your age. I'm several years younger than you, but I feel the same way sometimes. I'm not a big social butterfly, and there are no single people my age at my work so that's my problem.

Being a little spoiled and bossy probably doesn't help, but there are a lot of guys who can deal with that. Just try not to let that show too much early on, and by the time someone finds that out about you, they'll probably have found enough that they like that they won't really care about little foibles like that.

Church probably is a good place to meet other singles who are family & marriage oriented. But you need to be somewhat religious to get much out of it. So if you're not, I wouldn't recommend it. But if you are, or just haven't gone in a while, it's a good move.

You could try online dating as well. I tried it a while back and the women were all nice and who they said they were. I just wasn't that crazy about them.

Answer 3

First of all dont go to church just to meet a man , I mean im not religous but that is a bad idea. Second it sounds like you know the problem , a man doesnt want someone who is spoiled and bossy, they want someone they can treat as an equal and that treats them as an equal. Work on not being so bossy and I bet you will be ok

Answer 4

you sound exactly like a friend of mine. she is 29, single, no children, very attractive, good job... she also can be bossy, but that is just knowing what you want.

I honestly don't think church has anything to do with it. You can meet someone anywhere, just be patient and when it is meant to happen it will. You can't force it.

I am 25 and I am newly married. Everyone I know says what a great guy my husband is. When I was younger, I always went for the wrong type of guy. I finally smartened up and hung on to him for dear life!!!

Personally of all the single gals out there... their common complaint is...
THERE ARE NO DESCENT MEN OUT THERE BECAUSE THEY ARE ALREADY TAKEN.

The ball is in your court fellas!

Just have some faith. Don't take it personal and settle for anything less than you deserve.

Answer 5

Go to personality100.com

Follow all the steps and answer all the optional questions.

I'm married though, I just answered the questions to learn more about myself. It turns out that after all is testing is done. It re directs you to a dating site and to a bunch of other people who took the same test. I got a lot of flattering responses but again I'm married and didn't respond to any of them. LOL!

Even though I never paid for anything or use the service. I did learn a lot about my self and how to spot other compatible people. If nothing else, after you fill out all the stuff and make your location and age filter open. You will get to see what hobbies and hang outs and turn on's a turn offs are for all the people who are compatible with you do. Once you have that information, all you have to do is look in those places.

For example, I met my wife in an art store. Later, we found ourselves in a drawing class together. She had a boyfriend at the time, only I didn't know it at first. A lot of drama and fighting, it all worked out and we eventually got married and the drama fighting and romance continues.

Are you sure you need someone to be happy? lol.

Answer 6

Be careful of the male church-goers. Some can be brutally offensive outside of church. Example BTK. Mass Murderer.
Their are alot of wolves in sheep's clothing inside those Holy walls.
In regards to you finding your husband..............Men do not like to think of themselves as owned by a bossy male or female. I would caution you in this area. If this is a problem for you, seek individual/or group counseling.
Usually the universe will open up to those who really make their desires known. Be specific, as to the guy you are seeking, write it down. Be specific as to the exact kind of relationship you are seeking; write it down. Place what you have written on a bathroom or bedroom mirror where you can see it daily. Give it a 30 day try, and see what happens. I think you will be amazed. You may, however, have to take some risks within the 30 day period.

Answer 7

Don't despair. I'm a firm believer that everything happens for a reason. The right person will be there for you at the right time.

Don't sweat it about your age, either - many people aren't getting married until their 30's nowadays anyway, and starting to have kids in their mid-thirties.

Places I don't advise trying to meet people: bars and clubs (people there aren't usually looking for a relationship, if you know what I mean), work (that can be a mess), fitness club (again, see bars comment)

Church might not be a bad option, but if that's not panning out, there are other options. I always say friends-of-friends are the best way to go...if someone you trust says a person is trustworthy, you are probably in good shape. Also, this might sound weird, but you might consider one of the more mature online matchmaking sites, like eHarmony. I don't know anyone who's done it, but it sounds like it might be a way to find someone with similar goals and interests to your own.

Importantly, don't try to change yourself to find someone. You want that person to fall in love with the real person you are, not the person you're pretending to be!

Good luck to you!

Answer 8

...I don't know much about you personally darling...but if you have any close platonic male friends that you can confide in confidentially speaking?...I think that I'd probably start there possibly. If you're too darned attractive hun?...sometimes this intimidates allot of the male population sweetie. I like fabulous looking women...but I'd have to say for the most part all of the ones I've met recently, are so darned into themselves actually...that we guys simply look at you with our high maintenance eyes. We don't think we're good enough for ya honey...so you might end up having to do the asking unfortunately. Send a pic to me hun via e-mail...I'll give ya my honest opinion anyways. Spoiled is not a good sign either hun...it just means we won't be able to keep you financially satisfied probably. Bossy?.....well hun...that simply speaks for itself really. Send me a pic anyways. We'll work on the rest of your stuff later! Cool?

Answer 9

First of all.Take a good hard look at yourself.You said you were spoiled and bossy.Instant turnoff for most guys.We will have sex with you,but that is about it.
High maintanance women usually end up with some geeky guy that they dont care about but will continue to spoil them.A good decent guy wants a strong independant women.one who knows how to sacrifice and stick it through.Good and bad times.
If you are looking for true love.Try not being so spoiled and bossy.Try being the one who spoils and takes orders,not slaving.Just try doing things for others.The sky is the limit.
If all else fails e-mail me.

Answer 10

At this time in your life, You are probably set in your ways and expecting a mate to be the exact fit for you. But what you need to understand is that a guy your age who is also single is set in his ways as well, You need to have an open mind when choosing a companion, You have to break down the walls you have made as being a functioning woman. And it has alot to do with where you are finding dates. The internet is mostly the one night stands, if you want quality, go where quality is .... I.E church, community functions, and so on.....