My boyfriend is comeing over tonight, and I dont know how to act around him, because of last night, we had a fight over girls numbers in his cell for the 2nd time, and I'm till hurt over it, even though he claims of not cheating , and he got rid of the numbers, but I till hurt, he's trying everything to make me happy, he saids he loves me , but I dont know how to act around him tonight, and how to trust him, he's bring over movies, and we are going out for some ice cream , and ordering chiense take out, please help me, I want to make it work, but he hurt me deeply. I love him with all my heart, and plan to get married and have kids, I wont break up with him, so please need advice
2007-03-26 07:17:10 · 8 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-03-26 07:24:01 · update #1
My boyfriend betrayed my trust towards the end of last year which left me in limbo for about two weeks. I didn't know how to react to what he had done. Eventually I had to realise that despite all that he was still trying to win me back because he loved me and wanted to be with me, and I figured - well if he was doing that, spending so much time trying to speak to me and get in contact with me, he must be apologetic about the situation. If he didn't care about hurting me, then he wouldn't have been there and he would have walked away. He's taking the time to get some movies, take you for ice-cream and then getting some chinese in, recognise the effort he's putting in.
It needs to be clear that he hurt you, and made you feel paranoid about his "other" activities and his life away from you - reiterate the fact that if he does that again he won't be quite so easily welcomed back into your life. Another slip up and you should be walking away. At the same time though, combat your anguish and pain by remembering all the wonderful times that you've had together and if something like this has never happened before you really shouldn't have a lot to worry about.
Make your boundaries clear, let him know your feelings and wait for his next move.
2007-03-26 07:25:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
At one point you are just going to have to truly trust what he says or just keept questioning him. A lot of the questioning may come from insecurities about your relationship. Those girls could have been his friends. I would just try to play it cool tonight, keep your eyes open for signs of cheating in the future(but don't obsess about it). If he is cheating he isn't worth the time to worry anyway. If it makes you feel better just get it out in the open when he gets there. Discuss how it made you feel. Then tell him you want to move on and have a fun night together.
2007-03-26 07:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by natsuko1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well since I can see were this is going all I can say to you is good luck. You have already decided even though you yourself have trust issues with your boyfriend having girls numbers on his cell phone and who knows were else. If your boyfriend who says he loves you then why does he have other girls phone numbers in his cell? Open your eyes, I know you love him and he says he loves you too. But does he really love you?
2007-03-26 07:39:29 · answer #3 · answered by angels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you think he is cheating on you, you need to pull away from him a bit... I don't mean breaking up, but scare him into thinking you will. Stop being so lovey dovey with him and DONT give him everything he wants when he wants it..... make him work for you.
Remember, that if he IS cheating on you, he might not be using a condom, and you can catch something pretty nasty.
Be careful, Sweets.
2007-03-26 07:26:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Were whatever that you just particularly like however make its to not overboard (you recognize what I imply) and take a seat on his lap and simply speak and waight for the correct second the man normally breaks the ice.
2016-09-05 16:45:13 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just calmly bring it up
listen to his perspective listen not hear listen
are they just friends that are girls?
if so dont you have guy friends in your phone?
if you think the girl likes him (which i have been in that situation) just let it go....
my bf was having lots of friends going out to dinner and he told me that he would be inviting her and me and my best friend just had fun and didnt let her bother us and your bf should tell you he doesnt like her ...if youre really curious then you can just see how they act when there together
2007-03-26 07:23:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF YOUR NOT GOING TO BREAK UP WITH HIM....THEN YOU JUST NEED TO GET OVER IT. I'M NOT SURE WHAT ADVICE WANT. DO YOU WANT PEOPLE TO HELP YOU PRETEND TO BE OVER SOMETHING YOU ARE NOT? IF YOU REALLY LOVE THIS GUY ..AND YOU DON'T NOT INTEND TO DUMP HIM. JUST GET OVER IT.......CHANCES ARE THAT WHEN YOU'RE HANGING OUT WITH HIM TONIGHT.....YOU WILL FORGET ABOUT IT BECAUSE YOU WILL BE HAVING FUN.
2007-03-26 07:25:52 · answer #7 · answered by tatyana17 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
if he took the numbers out what's the problem? he gave you what you want! and you need to get over your insecurities, he should be allowed to ahve female friends
2007-03-26 07:22:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋