well this is the story, i liked my buddys younger sis, we started hangin, it progressed slowly, i always did sweet/nice things for her, but she never showed me physical attraction, meanwhile she was out having sex with 6-7 new guys in this time frame of a month or two....
moving on. we started to date, we had rocky times, mainly becuz of indescretions i see in her, and felt like i was decieved in this time when we were first starting to hang out, like i knew she was up to something and didnt wanna believe it..and she wouldnt admit it...so we were rocky,,and we break up,..well she breaks up with me by email..then that nite, another guy who she lied to me about, she invites him to hang out, and has sex with him, then a couple weeks go by, she seems distraught, im distraught, i finally get all this truth out of her...she says she wants to work on alot, (she is bipolar/boerderline) but its coming along really slow, im 27 she is 20...i love her..but...should i give her renewed chances?
2007-03-26 07:16:04 · 16 answers · asked by Answeroni-the dime piece 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
these details are prob a lil late, but yes, she goes to therapy and is working on finding the exact meds that work good for her..
2007-03-26 07:34:53 · update #1
thats a tuff one. I mean maybe she just wanted to experience other things and not feel tied down. I know that feeling myself. It's totally up to you and what you want for your own life. Good Luck
2007-03-26 07:20:16 · answer #1 · answered by citizenparticular 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Meanwhile she was out having sex with 6-7 new guys in this time frame of a month or two...."
That was your first clue.
"we had rocky times, mainly becuz of indescretions i see in her, and felt like i was decieved"
This was your own fault.
See her for what she is. She has a problem. She won't change. Decide if you can deal with it, or not. Likely not.
Her life and mental setup might be very fragile. You wanting her to be different will not change her. You need to see her, for who she is.
you might look at NIMH Sites on internet and join a friends of Bipolar support group.
2007-03-26 14:23:06 · answer #2 · answered by A Military Veteran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you still want too, but I'd think about how much you've gone through. I know from experience that a relationship with an unstable person is completely draining.
Does she want to just work on herself or talk to a professional about the need she is trying to fill by having sex with so many partners?
She is putting not only herself, but you at risk as well for sexually transmitted diseases. If she's that out of control, then she probably isn't using protection - regardless of what she's telling you.
I wouldn't even attempt it unless you absolutely knew that she was seeking professional help with her problems. Ultimately, you have to take care of yourself first.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 14:23:31 · answer #3 · answered by nite_angelica 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you love her but does she love u? r u sure she's attracted 2 u physically? mayb ur 2 nice and that can b annoying at times or taken 4 granted especially if u don't allow her the time 2 b nice 2 u. Answer this.. can u b comfortable knowin 6-7 other men just slept with ur girl amonth or 2 ago, walk by them on the street and still feel confident and good about ur relationship or possibly ur wife 2 b? she has added numbas and depreciated her market value, now wat is it that ur really looking 4 in a real woman?
2007-03-26 14:25:20 · answer #4 · answered by sexysania01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She having sex with 6-7 new guys. You don't need or want her. She already lied to you about it and will do it again. You already knew the answer but denied it to yourself. As to bipolar she is using that to justify her actions. Move on dude she will only hurt you more.
2007-03-26 14:28:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if you're willing to deal with her being unreliable and possibly cheating! or, wait until she's more sorted out - if she's borderline bipolar, she needs to be talking to a psychiatrist (medicine's often very helpful with that disorder, if you can talk the person into taking it!) I'm sure she could use a friend to stand by her, but she has to be taking an active part in her own well-being or there's nothing anyone can do to help her.
2007-03-26 14:30:15 · answer #6 · answered by Megs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be with anyone that sleeps around? It's too dangerous. She's obviously not ready for the kind of relationship you want. She's young and want to sew her wild oats. You are setting yourself up for heartbreak. Let her have her fun, it if is ment to be she'll come back when she's ready for a committed relationship.
2007-03-26 14:22:07 · answer #7 · answered by Truth Hurts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats hard. She might really like you, and she might not. Talk to her about her being bipolar and what she does with her body. Tell her that its not good and that you want to be with her. Maybe try to get her some help. I believe im bipolar and as long as i have someone to talk to me and keep me cool im ok.
2007-03-26 14:21:43 · answer #8 · answered by Nessa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you deserve better. She is obviously immature, and with that many sexualy partners in a month, she might have something bad down south.
2007-03-26 14:21:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hate to be bold but it sounds like you should let her go.... you need to ask youself "are you going to marry this girl" I would stop this habit before it gets worse, move on there's so many other great girls out there. You sound like a great guy expand your horizons : )
2007-03-26 14:21:05 · answer #10 · answered by mc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋