their is this guy that says that he really do love me and that he really cares about me. but i don't feel the same. because of some things that he did to me in the past. like lying repeatedly, cancelling dates, and tryin' to talk 2 my sister, and his history of cheating on his past girlfriends. which makes it hard 2 trust him. in spite of all this i still care for him but i know that we will and could neva be. what should i do???????????
2007-03-26 07:15:28 · 9 answers · asked by blkdiva360 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
baby girl, you have the right mind set. that's all you can give him is friendship and nothing more. his past record is not impressive and you're looking for someone who's in totally different spectrum.
2007-03-26 07:24:48 · answer #1 · answered by harmony 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you already know the answer by what you said..
"but i know that we will and could neva be."
People care for others all the time even people we know we could never date it wont stop you/me from likeing them..
Trust is on thing that must be in a relationship inorder for it to work if you have no trust the relationship will end in time.
Think of this--- you and him get together and everytime he goes away without you, you sit around and wonder what he is doing and with who, you find yourself looking thru his things for any kind of proof he is cheating or not cheating, you find yourself so sad becasue you just can not trust him.. Is this something you really want to go thru? I bet not..
People do change I cant say once they cheat they always cheat but past behavior is a good indicator into seeing future behavior.. so the chances of him cheating and lying are very good..
There is no reason to start a relationship with a person you do not trust..
If I were you be frineds with him, if that is not to hard on you because of the way you feel for him. If it is hard for you and you can not just be friends then back away from him some find things in life you enjoy doing and make new friends, hang out with different people and so on..
Sometimes we know the answer we just do not want to see it and need advice.. my advice is do not be with him if their is no trust it will just hurt you in the end.
Also people who really like you and care wont lie,cheat, and all the time cancel plans on you.. They will be honest and so on with you.. If he has been doing all of this to you then how can he really care about you or how you feel??
Would you do this to someone you care for and like?? I bet not, so why should you deserve any less then honesty and respect..
Good luck
2007-03-26 14:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Tonya R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its easy to care about someone no matter how wrong they have done. I understand that because when I was younger I spent most of my teen yrs with a guy who lied, cheated & broke my trust, but somehow I managed to keep him in my life & was with him on & off for yrs. I finaly had to let him go. He changed his ways, but after so long, we just grew into 2 different people, & I just couldn't handle being the only one that seemed to be in the relationship. I let him go & tryed to stay in contact with him, but his family & wife wasn't comfortable with it. I made the decision of letting go, even after him being in my life for many yrs, I had to, there was no other choice. I found a new man, & the man I met has been my husband for almost 5 yrs now, letting go of the other guy was hard, but after awhile, he just became a memory. I hope this information helps you out, if anything, follow what your heart says. Take care.
2007-03-26 14:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to this man's relatives or his close friend. and ask him or her to describe this man's character. Or, you can go on a date with him and observe him yourself. ask him questions, such as interests, history, etc. If you truly dont love him, then tell him after you do these steps
2007-03-26 14:21:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he cheated on his other girlfriends, he will cheat again, once a cheat , always a cheat, just find someone else that's better then him
2007-03-26 14:19:07 · answer #5 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away! Sounds like you are wading in dangerous waters by dating him.
2007-03-26 14:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been thruogh some things like that.But hey if you really love him you will forgive him.It will all come to pass.
2007-03-26 14:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by lyness o 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what you just wrote here, if he isnt' mature enough to handle it, tell him to keep out of the kitchen.
2007-03-26 14:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
MOVE on and forget about it.
2007-03-26 14:30:02 · answer #9 · answered by NeNe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋