My friend wanted some clothes for vacation and thought she'd surprise her boyfriend with some more provocative clothing. She looked great in everything she borrowed.
Since she usually dresses so conservatively, he was shocked at this, and he was getting annoyed and jealous by all the men staring at her.
They've been together for 3 years, and he's never shown this behavior, and I've been friends with her for 10 years!
Now, he's blaming ME for ruining their vacation and implying I should pay for the trip!!!
I don't even know where to begin with this! I am in shock!
Should I give him a gift card or something for all the trouble this caused? It was my idea for her to borrow the clothes and surprise him.
2007-03-26 07:05:16 · 30 answers · asked by Reserved 6 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Pay him for the trip you spoiled by interfering in your friend's once-stable relationship. It's the only way to salvage things,
Then, you must borrow her frumpy clothes and go on a vacation with him. He pays for this jaunt, obviously. Do not fail to rock his world, to make up for his "lost time" on his last vacation, which YOU ruined.
EDIT: HOW DARE ANY OF YOU GIVE ME A "THUMBS-DOWN!" WHOREMONGERERS! THIS SPOILER AND USURPER MUST BE CORRRRRECTED! AAACK!
Only then will things be made right.
2007-03-26 07:19:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 6⤋
Sound like he is insecure, your not to blame for anything. If your friend liked the clothing and enjoyed wearing it, then he is the only one with an issue. A real man wouldn't let his girl looking gorgeous and knowing it ruin his trip, he would just be grateful that such a beauty was with him. Sounds like your friend is a gorgeous girl that needs a more confident guy.
2007-03-26 14:13:34 · answer #2 · answered by Kini 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you owe nothing. She asked to borrow the clothes and you were a good friend.
When I dress up and men look at me, my husband is proud because I am with him and I am staying with him. I am with him even though all those other guys want me. It is good for his ego. If this guy is so jealous and unsure of himself to get angry about other guys looking at his girl, he needs help and not of the monetary kind.
2007-03-26 14:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by Elizabeth Howard 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! You don't need to pay for a thing! What is your friend saying about all of this? If she's been with him for 3 years shouldn't she know him well enough to say 'No' to wearing clothing she doesn't think he'll like or approve of? It's not like you FORCED her to wear anything, even if it was your idea. She always had the option of saying no. He's the one with the problem - I'm surprised your friend hasn't jumped in to your defense. What is SHE saying about all of this? Does she agree with her boyfriend?
2007-03-26 14:10:36 · answer #4 · answered by They call me ... Trixie. 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
your clothes didn't ruin their trip... HE did. Now he's trying to displace the blame on you... and he will probably whine about this to your friend over and over, to wear her down and get her to agree. He's got more issues than a newstand, and your friend is better off without him.
Don't give him a give card. make it clear that YOU expect an apology for his insinuations. Don't accept the responsibility for his poor behavior - you'll just become an enabler.
2007-03-26 14:19:40 · answer #5 · answered by kent_shakespear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FORGET IT! You did nothing wrong, but remember that "No good deed shall go unpunished". I'd distance myself from that couple.
He sounds like he has the makings of an abuser as well. Your friend will probably be single again, and probably the sooner the better.
Don't do anything, don't even bring up the subject would be best.
2007-03-26 14:12:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope. This isn't your issue. While the bf would like to blame you, it's not your fault. You did nothing wrong. Sounds like bf needs to check himself and start showing some pride in his sexy lady. It's a whole lot easier to blame you than himself. It's not his gf's fault either...this is HIS issue and no one elses. Feel secure in the fact that you or your friend did nothing wrong and that the problem lies solely with the bf.
2007-03-26 15:26:02 · answer #7 · answered by prekinpdx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't feel at all responsible for this situation. You had the best of intentions and it sounds like he acted very immaturely. I think this guy needs to leave you out of the situation. He is jealous and that something they have to deal with. Asking you to pay for the vacation is ludicrous. Don't give it another thought. He needs to grow up!
Good luck
2007-03-26 14:21:49 · answer #8 · answered by Somanyquestions,solittletime 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not even consider paying for that guy's vacation. It sounds like he is very insecure and doesn't know how to handle his feelings of jealousy and is very controlling and possessive of your friend. That kind of behavior can turn into even more controlling actions and abuse. Watch this guy!
2007-03-26 14:31:21 · answer #9 · answered by Unity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him...he is the one with an insecurity issue. I am happy your friend was trying to revitalize the relationship by doing something different. It may be time for this couple to part ways - I know - easier said than done. It seems he liked his wallflower and now she did something where others noticed her...well, he is the one with the problem - not you or her.
2007-03-26 14:15:06 · answer #10 · answered by AuntLala 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you hit the nail on the head... he's jealous. It's not your problem that you suggested a few ideas to your friend. It's his problem that he can't accept that his girlfriend now obviously appears to attract other men. When my wife attracts other men, I consider it to be a compliment because she is with me, not them. Don't sweat it. Just talk to him and tell him that you feel as if it's not your responsibility that he's jealous.
2007-03-26 14:14:28 · answer #11 · answered by T-Ball 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋