I have been in long relationships with both of these guys. I feel I am a horrible person for doing this to them because I wouldn't like it if someone did this to me. I've been seeing both and lying, been the worst a person could ever be. I can't see living without either one of them, I'm torn into I don't know what to do or how to decide? A lot of people say your heart will tell you, but my heart and everything is so confused? I don't want to hurt anyone. I just need advice on who to choose or how do I choose? I feel so awful!
2007-03-26 07:03:20 · 23 answers · asked by padros 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
you are in deep trouble....just try to make up your mind - which one? no one can help you except you ;>
2007-03-26 07:08:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for you and I trust that this is probably not love. You are not a horrible person, I'm sure they both have traits that you like and it's just too bad that all these traits are in 2 guys instead of all put together into one. What you should do is stay away from both of them for a week or two, maybe longer if you can, tell them you are on vacation or something and then when the time comes to return, think really hard about which one you really missed more, which one you thought of more while away. I think that will help you decide how you truly feel. I've been in this situation before and can tell you right now, 10 years later I am not with either of the ones who I thought I was in love with. I have the same feeling at this very moment about 2 men but I have kids with one of them so I haven't acted on my feelings and am sort of stuck here until they grow up. Please, whatever you do DON'T GET PREGNANT that will cause you so many more problems that you don't need.
2007-03-26 08:07:05 · answer #2 · answered by flmamaof4 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being in love with 2 people is complicated but usually a person feels just a little more for one than the other. Of course you may be different. Since you have been lying to each one you have a problem. You should always be honest in your relationships and the fact you feel awful tells me at least you regret the way you are acting but this is not enough. You must change the way you are acting toward these two guys and tell them the truth as to what is going on and how you feel even if it hurts. Sooner or later each will find out the truth. You see, the truth has a way of always coming out when you lest expect it. Be honest with both of them and see what happens. You may be surprised to learn more about yourself that is good and them as well.
2007-03-26 07:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by Lewis P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to back away from the situation and look at it in a different perspective. Either way you are going to hurt at least one of them if not both of them. That is a given. Try just being friends with both of them for awhile and then start anew with a realtionship with just one of them. You are hurting yourself as well as the two guys that you say you love. Just cuz you are in a realationship with one of them does not mean that you cannot be friends with the other. Come clean and though they may be upset at first they will respect you more in the end. A guy did this to me (and I was engaged to him) and his wife (who he said he would get a divorse from after we both found out) and he ended up destroying his marriage and hurting his 3 beautiful boys and hurting me in more ways than one. Be honest. That is the best policy and remember this and I'm not trying to sound sinical or anything but if you really had REAL feelings for either of them you would never had done this cuz someone is going to end up majorally hurt. And that person may be you. Come clean before you are confronted by them. A lie cannot stay hidden forever. The truth will set you free.
2007-03-26 07:12:27 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both what you were doing. You cant have a real relationship with one of them, or else the cheating will just come back to bite you in the ***.
Then if your EXTREMELY lucky, one may chose to forgive you. Then you have your answer, and work it out with that one.
If none forgive you, then atleast you were honest, and you know not to do it again.
And if both forgive you, then your going to have sit down and decide, but most people dont forgive someone for cheating. So I doubt it will come to that.
Be honest with both of them, even if you do pick one and then in a year they find out you cheated on them. Your life will crumble. And this is the only way that you wont feel awful forever.
2007-03-26 07:10:50 · answer #5 · answered by Zenthae 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be dating two guys at the same time. It never goes over well, and you could very well lose both of them, and then you're left with nobody. With two guys, you're going to have to pick one. This is by no means easy, but it's what you have to do. It's a tough decision and might take some time and one of the guys is not going to be chosen. Good luck with this, it's not easy. Think about it and do what you think is right for you. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-03-26 07:22:34 · answer #6 · answered by marcus aurelius 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to give them both up and find yourself, give yourself tell to think who will be good for you in the long run. Let's talk marriage here who benefit you more, who do you see yourself having a family with. Don't play with people feelings it hurts to be cheated on. Remember what goes around comes around (hopefully I'm saying this right).
2007-03-26 07:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by whocarez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have but yourself in a love triangle. The only true way to find out which of these guys truly love you is to confess. Have you ever heard the saying " If you love someone set them free and if they comes back it was meant to be." You can try this but you will have consequences, so be prepared to loose one or the other. Hey and they may be cool with sharing you.
2007-03-26 07:14:26 · answer #8 · answered by NeNe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres no way that can happen. one of the dude you are kidding yourself and forcing it. You such a liar, if you love them you wouldnt do all that. im mad how girls running their mouth how guys are playing but you the biggest playa. going with both guys in a relationship, kissing and ******* both them at the same time. You will definitely hurt one and you also hurting yourself. you feel like that, tell both of them the truth each in privacy. its better for them to get mad at you, you breaking someone or get your heart broken than playing two guys who probably doesnt deserve it. Stoping being a ho while you are at it
2007-03-26 07:08:51 · answer #9 · answered by Chi Town Playa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to sit down and think long and hard..weigh the option and the pros and cons picture you life for the next 20 yrs. w/ each of them who do you think would make a better husband a bettter father who is more willing to be there for you and help you in your time of need.. who do you have more fun with...who do you relate better with and who do you have more in common with and last who is better in bed! seriously! that is important! sometimes physical attraction blinds you from making a good decision so although it might be hard you need to weigh the personality factors of how well you get along and who will suit you better in the long run instead of who you are more attracted to because with time those feelings will fade and you want to be with someone you can still be happy with when that initial turn on is gone.
2007-03-26 07:11:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all the cultures of the world , it's mission impossible to love 2 persons in the same time . You mean dating ; and this is another thing . The problem is that when any one of them feels that you cheat him . Bee cool , ha !
2007-03-26 07:11:52 · answer #11 · answered by citizen high 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋