i have been datin this guy for about 1 yr. i have fallen in love with him. i want 2 work things out but i feel like i'm puttin 2 much in 2 the relationship and not getting what i give in return. he and i have grown up in the same area. more-a -less in the same ways. he doesn't want to move out of the area, doesn't like to travel, doesn't like to do most things that i want to do in life, he don't care about the future he lives for 2day & doesn't think about what 2marrow can bring, doesn't treat me the way that i feel i should be treated & i don't want him to change anything about himself, i want him 2 change the way he treats me i have asked him time and time again but i have seen no difference. i have broken up with him about a month ago & recently met a guy he's in the NAVY has moral&goals in life and knows how to treat a woman.he is ready to settel down. he is lookin 4 some1 to support him in ways that a wife should. i love my "b.f" but im considerin giving this other guy a chance!!
2007-03-26 07:00:23 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't give him another chance. I had a similar problem with a guy I was dating for about a year. He treated me horribly. I finally ended the relationship and it was for the best. Everything happens for a reason. Maybe you were meant to break up with him so you could find the guy you are with now and be treated the way you always wanted to be treated. I mean only you can decide which way you want to go, but from personal experience, after breaking up with the guy that treated me horribly I got with a guy in the ARMY. We got married and he treats me very wonderful. So you should decide which way of life you would rather have, who you have stronger feelings for. Hope this helps. Good luck.
2007-03-26 07:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by punkxrocker3 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you didn't feel right with your ex but you seem to connect with the navy guy, go for it but learn to know him better before feelings become stronger. Take it slow... You don't wanna get too excited and later find out that besides the goals and morals, there are other things that are not right. For now, as long as he treats you right and you feel good about the way things are going then that's a good start.
2007-03-26 14:13:08 · answer #2 · answered by L L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All the way for the Navy guy!! Honestly, it sounds like he would treat you better, sometimes you just have to let go of things in your life to get what you really deserve. Just forget about the boyfriend and be happy. Pick the guy that knows what he wants in life and has he's head on his shoulders. Good Luck and hope you make the decision that will make you most happy.
2007-03-26 14:07:42 · answer #3 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
1st relationship is a collective effort, "we" not "me" so if ur the only giving 1 it puts pressure on u which is unhealthy in all sense of the word. love does not have a mind of its own it will keep you bound for years to sum ting that isn't working. if u realise from early its not working, keep moving cuz it'll be worst if he decides 2 leave u seeing ur more interested in keeping d relationship. be careful how u trod into another relationship, take it slow cuz if ur disappointed again u'll be under pressure again. all men av faults so if its a fault u can work with or work on then do so, otherwise go seek happiness in the right places.try talking to him again and give him an ultimatum, if he's still set in his ways then it can't and won't work
2007-03-26 14:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by sexysania01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your "bf" doesn't give treat you how you want to be treated then there's no point in continuing the relationship. i would give it a try with the navy guy because it sounds like you 2 are a little bit more on the same level and want the same things
2007-03-26 14:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you, from my own experiences, men don't change. He may try to change, but will eventually wind up treating you the same.
It sounds like you know what you want, so you should go for it. It is hard to switch relationships after you have invested so much time, but life is short and you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't make you happy. Figure out what you want for yourself, and then decide which guy to be with. I am quite sure you already know which one that is.
Hope this helps!
Rosey
2007-03-26 14:06:06 · answer #6 · answered by Rosey 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One bit of advice. You can't change anyone. Even the way someone treats you. If you don't like the way he treats you or you both like to do different things / have different life styles, don't expect that will change either. Accept someone as they are and the way they are with you or move on and find someone who is more compatable.
2007-03-26 14:05:55 · answer #7 · answered by aquestforaheart 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
everything you said about your bf: is that what you really want? yu said you want a guy that treats you like you deserve to be treated and you feel you're not getting back what you put into the relationship. if he hasn't changed now, then he hasn't grown up yet. leave him alone and move on with your life. If this new guy is what you want then go for it.
2007-03-26 14:04:39 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know what you love about your boyfriend when you have nothing in common with the guy. Quit hoping he'll change to suit you and move on. End it with your boyfriend whether you give the new guy a chance or not- your bf is a waste of time.
2007-03-26 14:03:49 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are an idiot if you go back to that loser boyfriend. Don't make that mistake. You are looking ahead so please don't look back. The only reason you like the old boyfriend is because you think you can change him. You can't, he can only change himself in due time. You must go on with your life before you wind up on an episode of Maury Povich. Go with the Navy dude or nobody at all. Grow up a little and live life before you make a major decision.
2007-03-26 14:09:54 · answer #10 · answered by rollingx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋