My mom had this boyfriend(CJ) i liked alot. I thought of him as a dad. They dated for 4 years while he cheated on his wife. I guess to them it was ok because she was going to pass away soon from cancer. I hated him for that, but i got over it. Then she passed and i guess he couldnt deal with it so he started to drink. My mom couldnt handle his drinking so she left him. It hurt me alot cuz he was the only person i thought of like a dad since mine walked out when i was 5. It didnt bother her that i was hurt but she told me and my brothers and sisters that she will never bring anyone around ever again for us to got close to. A week later she had Rich. I hated him from the start and i told myself i will put up a wall and not let it come down ever! So i did. My mom yelled at me because i wasnt being nice to him after all he moved in withing a few days. Next thing i know almost a year latter he is gone. CJ is back now. Should i leave a wall up or should i let him in again?
2007-03-26 06:55:17 · 5 answers · asked by Nessa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its hard for me to anyone because ive lost so much with everything ive been through. Noone will ever understand that.
2007-03-26 06:56:04 · update #1
those r not real names.
2007-03-26 07:01:55 · update #2
My mom is just with him because she knows he still likes her nad she cant stand to be alone.
2007-03-26 07:06:32 · update #3
i would leave the wall up, but if you still have to deal with him after a year i would start slowly taking it down
2007-03-26 08:10:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're going through all that, but i think that since you loved CJ before, you will love him again. Don't put walls up that easily, after all, your mom is just trying to be happy, maybe not in ways you like, but i'm sure she doesn't realize how much it's hurting you. Try to understand her and don't discount CJ so quickly. He's back, so they obviously have a strong enough love to give it a second try.
2007-03-26 07:03:36 · answer #2 · answered by TNP Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should cuz u know at the end it is ur mother & if she really bringed him(CJ) again i think u have to trust her again & if she did anything wronge or makes u unhappy just rebuilt this wall again & forget the past ur having a life waiting for u!!
2007-03-26 07:52:41 · answer #3 · answered by the impossible love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand don't let him in and your mom sucks for doing this to you
2007-03-26 07:00:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
too bad
2007-03-26 09:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by jimmideon49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋