There is this guy that I work with, that I've been pretty interested in for a few months now--and recently we've been talking and hanging out more often. For example, the other day we went out for drinks, and then had some friends meet up with us, but afterwards he asked me to come to his apartment and hang out. Nothing serious happened, we just sat on his couch talking about random things, and he kept putting his hand on my leg--just as well, before I left he hugged me, and then when I went to reach for the door, he hugged me again. We have a ton in common, and always talking, and he's been calling me just to say hi.
Now, usually I would say,yes, he's into me--but the thing is he,in general,is just a very friendly nice guy,who does have a ton of girls who are friends(who are mine, too),so it's hard for me to say if he's just this way with me,or everybody.I know for a fact though that he's only been calling me,and I'm the only one that's been up to his apartment alone.What to do?
2007-03-26 06:54:39 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to add, when I FIRST met him,I was in a pretty terrible relationship that he told me to get out of, because he said I deserved better.
2007-03-26 07:07:54 · update #1
Well, you would probably have to investigate whether is guy being affectionate toward other girls or not. The fact you got a personal invite to his place and he got a little physical shows you that he is developing some sort of interest, whether romantic or sexual. But also, it is important to realize that since you two have only been truly acquainted just recently, it's probably too early to tell what direction the "relationship" is going. For the time being, just keep your eyes peeled. You'll know for sure whether he's interested or just flirtatious by relying on your intuitive senses. Most of the time our gut feelings are absolutely correct. It's just a shame most of us don't trust them. Good luck and hopefully, you'll have your TRUE answer soon enough! :)
2007-03-26 07:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by The Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you know for fact that you're the only one invited to his apt. and the only he calls, he should be pretty interested in you, I would say. I don't know. when a guy is generally friendly, it's hard to tell or pick up the right signal. if you're still unsure, wait a bit more or send him some email or text message implying or wondering so it's not so direct. and watch his response. sometimes, some guys are very gentle and it's not too easy to tell unless they ask you out directly. good luck and i hope this works out for you!
2007-03-26 07:00:30 · answer #2 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it seems like he likes you and that he might be one of those rare men who wants to start things out slowly, instead of hitting the sack in a hurry.
You just need to be honest about your feelings for him and see what happens. It may not turn out how you want, but at least you will know how he feels, instead of wondering.
He might be a shy guy who needs you to make the first move...Go for it girl!! =)
Rosey
2007-03-26 07:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Rosey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The hand on the leg plus multi-hug sounds like a dead-give-away to me that he likes you. Make a move back next time he makes a move on you.
2007-03-26 07:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by onefineham 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is both interested and nice and single ladies should not go to guys apartments unless the relationship is meaningful or has strong ties.
2007-03-26 07:02:24 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider yourself cared about, don't try to read into it more than it is and then you can enjoy him and he you without the pressure of what does he think, who is he with, etc.
By the way, don't you know he should be wondering this too? He is fortunate to know you, have your friendship and company! He should be on his toes and very grateful you have given him your time.
2007-03-26 07:03:35 · answer #6 · answered by OPTIMIST 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make a move on him next time you're alone.
He was telling you he wanted to make out when he put his hand on your leg. Sounds shy to me :)
Probably too used to being a respectful and nice guy.
2007-03-26 06:59:49 · answer #7 · answered by Peter N 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is interested. But maybe for just one reason, so be careful. If you want to have a good time, why not, but if you want something serious, let it play out. Again he might just be playing you to get you in the sack.
2007-03-26 06:59:40 · answer #8 · answered by rollingx 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He likes you!! He is just taking it slow like a gentleman.
The hand on your leg and hugging you should have
given you the clue. Silly girl. And you said your
the only one that has been to his apartment ....
ALONE. He likes you!!!
2007-03-26 07:00:38 · answer #9 · answered by chmar11 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slow down. Maybe he's a respectful guy who isn't trying to get you into bed or make a move.Maybe he wants to get to know you and date you before deciding if he wants to pursue anything with you. Believe it or not, some guys are decent and don't try to score with their co-workers as soon as they can.
2007-03-26 06:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋