This woman is bossy. We are buying a new house, I have colors planned out for it. I am going to paint the cabinets because they are too dark. She butts in with why they just need cleaned. I stated cause I don't like them. She went on till my husband said Mom we don't like them end it. Then she started on the kids rooms. My youngest son wants his blue and white with a skateboard theme. The oldest wants Hawaiian blue and white with a beach theme. They both want loft beds. She got her panties in a bunch over all that. Oh and two weeks ago she wanted to come paint. Ummm no! I can't take the stress of her being there. Our current house she came in while we were on vacation and re-arranged my cabinets. Told me that skillets don't go in the oven. Who cares? That is where I like them and it saves cabinet space. Help! I can't take her bossiness much more. I tell her I want it this way and she starts with well I would...
2007-03-26 06:45:11 · 10 answers · asked by misstigeress 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She complains to him which she knows in to no use. He does what he wants. He tells her to back off or stop and she still continues. I have told her look this what what I like it is mine. Still does no good. I breed german shepherds and the friend that normally comes while we are gone was out of town too, therefore she had to have a key to make sure the dogs were fed and watered (had no puppies at the time).
2007-03-26 06:59:13 · update #1
Try playing it in reverse. Thank the witch for her ideas and suggestions. Tell her you'll consider hers and everyone elses opinions with your honey. Then do what makes you happy. If she persists tell her you don't want to upset her but it's probably a good idea if she not go to the kids' rooms cuz they're painted the way YOu wanted them.
2007-03-26 09:06:10 · answer #1 · answered by Rae 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Change the locks on the house, put a lock on the back gate. Make sure that you have a person to check on your dogs and another person as a back up in case they are unable to do so. That way she won't have an excuse to have a key to your house. I would not have her over for painting and if she asks just tell her that you already have enough help. Don't put up with it, it's your house and your stuff. It needs to be the way you and your family want it to be. Hold your ground.
2007-03-26 13:23:27 · answer #2 · answered by hr4me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same irritating aunt. I suggest that you should have an adult discussion with the two of you alone. Tell her that your want to spoil your kids once in a while, that she has to let you and your husband to parent you children alone so that you can teach them not to learn the mistake's you made. Tell her politely that you can't learn to be a much better mother if she's around all the time. Also explain to her that it's your home and you want it to be a "home sweet home" kind of thing for you and your kids.
2007-03-26 07:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by heavydeezy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Step 1: Don't make her a spare key to this new house!
I don't think there's much you can do though. The good thing is your husband isn't siding with her. If she starts up with her "I would..." just tell her, "That's the way I like it and that's THAT!" :)
I wish you the best with everything and congratulations on your new house!
2007-03-26 06:52:52 · answer #4 · answered by princess526_2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to the song 'Mother of mine'.
Mother of mine, you gave to me / All of my life, to do as I please / I owe everything, I have to you / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
Mother of mine, when I was young/ You showed me the way, things have to be done / Without your love, where would I be / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
Mother, you gave me happiness / Much more than words can say / I pray the Lord that He may bless you / Every night and every day.
Mother of mine, now I have grown / And can walk straight, all of my own / I'd like to give you what you gave to me / Mother, sweet mother of mine.
A prayer that says
'Itnee shakti haame de na Daata,
maan ki biswas kamjor ho na'.
It means, 'Oh my lord (the Giver) give us so much of strength that our belief never gets weakened to serve you i.e. the society, family
"Your small sorrows will fly away
Chirping busily like sparrows,
You ought to use only good words
Not deadly bows and arrows.
Best way to win every heart
Share your joys to multiply
And confide to minimise sorrows."
- Subhas Chandra Kar
Practice it you will gain and be the winner.
All the best. God will be by your side.
2007-03-26 08:02:48 · answer #5 · answered by subhas chandra kar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well your husband already speaks up to her , so lay it on him to get mom to back of a little , tell him this and ask him too straighten her out a little more.
2007-03-26 06:53:23 · answer #6 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, what I have found to work is to ignore. Just walk away from her. If she has something to say then, tell her why you are ignoring her. Now if it has anything to do with your kids or how you parent, you need to speak up. JMO
2007-03-26 06:57:05 · answer #7 · answered by ~Miss~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how it is but nicely. Don't give her the keys to your house.
2007-03-26 06:50:41 · answer #8 · answered by sugarcarat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nie doesnt work with all people, just tell her to shut up and go away, she is not welcome with her bossy suggestions. I have a g.s. for 11 years now, what a beauty he is.
2007-03-26 07:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is mean
2007-03-26 09:08:49 · answer #10 · answered by jimmideon49 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋