What can parents do to help their kids have more self confident( For 7-14 ages)?

Answer 1

be honest with them and tell them how great of a person they are by complementing them at every cahnce they get and telling them they can do anything they want, esp. from 7-11 or so because they will believe what you tell them and they still look up to you.

Answer 2

Well parents have a lot less time these days. I would say make sure you're praising their good deeds and their good behavior moreso than the percentage you're telling them or yelling at them about something they messed up. Offer your time, give them responsibility and when they follow through with it, make sure you acknowledge it (doesn't always have to be an award but if they're older a little bit of allowance won't hurt because it teaches them how to manage their money). My kids if they want something and I don't see it as necessary for life (the $65 shoes versus $12 shoes) then I ask how bad they want ti? Are they willing to pay half of it? If so, they're more likely to get it. You need a balance of responsibility to teach lessons as well as self-confidence AND yet give them slack on the rope they're attached to us with.

Answer 3

Don't attach your self worth to theirs. No "My Kid Made the Honor Roll at XYZ Elementary" bumper stickers. Get them off the Gameboy and outside mowing the lawn, playing catch, whatever. Let them fail, help them when they do. No "You are super special Timmy no matter what", becuase the vast majority of kids are not special. That does not build self esteem. Nothing creates self esteem more than having a kid accomplish something after he has had a setback.

In general, stay away from the trendy PC garbage.

Answer 4

honestly it depends on the age and the personality of the child...what describes love to them??? like for me i wanted a lot of attention growing up and needed my parents to tell me that i was a good kid and whatever i was doing (extracurricular) was excellent even if i didn't win or get the best place...but my daughter doesn't need that...in fact she gets angry when i say that stuff to her...so i encourage her in subtle ways.. like when she really rocked the house at her talent show i just said good job honey that was awsome! nothing way over the top or anything but i could tell it meant a lot more to her self esteem. some kids are just really hard on themselves and don't think they're good enough for anything and no matter what you say or do it's not gonna help. (sadly) so let the child lead in that matter...if they radiate when you praise them and tell them how wonderful they are then continue to do so (these children just want pappa and mama to be proud of them) but other children who don't respond too well to it you're gonna have to let them find it on their own..but still praise them in different ways.

Answer 5

Hug them every day and tell them that they'll love them no matter what (and mean it!). Also, praise them a lot--not just for schoolwork, but for other things too--like drawing a pretty picture or beating a level in a video game. Every once in a while, brag about the kids' accomplishments in front of them, where they can hear (maybe to grandparents or to an aunt or uncle). That always made me feel really proud when my parents did that! Plus, listen to them. Nothing says "you're worth my time" like actually listening!

Answer 6

Compliments can work but I think the best thing is to have them involved in activities like sports or the school paper. After school activities give other people the chance to compliment your child. Kids are more likely to believe someone other than their parents. And when they succeed at the activity it will give them a sense of self.

Answer 7

It is important at any age that your kids know that you have confidence in them!! Remind them every chance you get that you are proud of them!!

They need to be involved in activities(i.e...sports, band, art) Something that they enjoy! Being part of something will help them develop self-worth and responsibility!

Answer 8

dont set them up for failure! my oldest son had low self esteem. my therapist said he was dealing wtih a strong sense of rejection since his father was living with a boy his age, the son of my ex's new wife. and this was ripping my son in two. he felt like a loser. and would say it. and even asked why God would let that boy who is a bully have his father and not him. so we had to build his self confidence. i had to figure out what he was good at and then provide it for him. he is a wonderful artist, so i bought him REAL art supplies. real sketch pads, not regular drawing paper. he has a portfolio, charcoal, and it's very special to him. when he's finished one book i get him another. he's also good with his dogs, so i took him to pets mart and i had HIM decide what toys, bedding, food and snacks we give them. if you give them the opportunity to be an "expert" at something they get these wonderful big heads! lol i love it. even responsibility boots their self confidence. that same son has a title it's called the "grounds keeper". he takes it very seriously. he puts trash up, weeds the flower beds, and waters the garden. he thinks he's the farmer lol and i tell him things like, well it's your yard, you decide. that gives him such an ego boost!!

Answer 9

give them credit when credit is due. Show them love. If they are clearly bad at something ITS ok to tell them. Folllowed by would you like mommy to help you get better, That way they always know you will be honest with them.

My son was horible at marching when he first joined the ROTC. I went to all the special practices and watched, several parents did..... I said here lets march together hun, i dont think your getting it all the way....... We worked on it, and when they went to contest he won a ribbon for his marching..... Now I can honestly say wow your great at that. Just be sure not to put them down........

Answer 10

In one word, responsibility. they need to feel like you trust them. Give them goals and reward them for good behavior. You can also involve them in extra activities. This might build the confidence with something they are good at. For girls shopping, makeovers, and stuff like that with mom still means a lot even when there teenagers