my 13 year old daughter was sitting next to a boy in English at school today, as she looked across she caught him masturbating, should my husband and I go directly to the school principal or should my husband speak to the boy.
2007-03-26 06:29:21 · 16 answers · asked by The Boss 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
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2007-03-26 09:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by jimmideon49 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I guess there are many ways to approach this. But no matter which avenue one wants to take, the real issue is merely that the boy was doing something inappropriate to the time and place and not committing a crime.
My first question relates to how much of himself the boy was exposing. For if he simply had his hands in his pockets while he pleasured himself, then it is possible he wasn;t even aware his activity could be observed. On the othe rhand if his penis was out in view, I suspec this motives were a little more inappropriate than his deeds.
Secondly, unless you believe masturbation is wrong and deserves punishment, you might wan tto avoid engaging authority figures who could easily offer only punishment rather than provide the required guidance. After all, boys and girls all masturbate; they just need ot be aware that there are appropriate times an dplaces. Thus if this person isn;t aware, maybe all tha tis needed is some words to the wise from the right person.
Another thing you didn't say was whethe rth eboy was off in his own little world or was he making gestures or other signs tha the was doing the masturbating for more than his own personal benefit. If he was doing it and his eyes were closed or looking away form others, then he was probably a bit oblivious to his even being observed. But if he was goling your daughter and makign a real show for her, then maybe he needs a good swift kick for being so rude.
In any event, he may well need some instruction in the when and where of masturbation. I strongly suspect him being informed he was observed and getting a little talking to about why masturbating in class isn't a good thing, will more than suffice.
However, if there definitely was some overt sexual overtones to his performance, then, as I said, he may well need more than mild embarassment and a little instruction. But in the absence of evidence in what you said, I cannot say he needs his parents or the principal or police involved to punish him for what may well be an innocent act. Then too, if he is offered some information and repeats the action at the wrong place and time, sterner measures may be called for.
I know this is a little incoherent but the bottom line is you haven't presented enough evidence one way or the other for me to say any more than do not over react to what may well be a minor judgement error on the boy's part.
2007-03-29 11:07:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-18 23:26:29 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well even though boys his age are experimenting, I would def let the principal know and allow the principal 2 speak w/ his parents. It would never be a good idea 4 your husband 2 get involved as far as talking 2 the boy.
2007-03-26 07:55:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your first thought should be your daughter...candidly speak with her (not that she doesn't already know the score
Your husband should, or maybe better yet, YOU should, speak with the boy relating the above and telling him how disturbed your daughter was because of his actions. (your husband may not have sufficient "sensitivity" to do this without scarring the boy for life. Your speaking with the boy will be more embarrassing for him than if he's "confronted" by your husband, if you know what I mean.
Yes, the activity is/was wrong. And under other circumstances in public would have him convicted of public lewdness at the very least, something the boy obviously was unaware of.
Masturbation is a totally natural thing, but...but not in public and definitely NOT in the classroom.
I'd also speak with the boy's English teacher who needs to have the same talk with the boy, threatening to "spill the whole story" to the officials unless he swears this will never happen again. This last by his teacher might be sufficient to make the boy see the error of his ways and stop it.
Are you certain that this was actual masturbation (with genitals in hand) or could the boy have been scratching himself, as men often doing quite without thought of who's watching???
You have the potential here to save both your daughter and the boy from becoming scarred for life by this, and adding to their sexual/social education.
Hopefully, this was just a random act and your sensitive intervention can still save the day.
Good luck.
2007-03-26 07:12:14 · answer #5 · answered by Moe J 3 · 6⤊ 0⤋
Okay, what the kid was doing is very natural. He should not be doing that in school though. I would go to the principal and see if he or she will talk with the parents, so the parents can talk to there son. More than likely they have no clue he is doing that. I don't think embarrassing the kid is the answer.
2007-03-26 07:02:21 · answer #6 · answered by ~Miss~ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Call the FBI or the CIA, maybe the president.
masturbation is a normal human thing and even though its an awkward place to do so. I doubt that the principal will do a thing about. I mean whats he gonna do say "well little Timmy don't masturbate, oh and you get a detention too"
2007-03-29 15:51:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The School Principal... You do not have the right to question someone elses child, regardless of what he has done..he is a minor....go to the Principal or the School counselor.
2007-03-26 17:11:29 · answer #8 · answered by Nicole E 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the school directory and go directly to his parents. Threaten indecent exposure lawsuits on them. (you win these... jury duty experience.) And THEN report it to the school. Your daughter tells you because she expects you to do something about it. She doesn't know what to do... She's 13!
If your husband speaks to the boy about this, HIS parents could sue you for improper or lude/lischevious acts or conversations with a minor. DON"T CONFRONT THE BOY. Confront the parents so they can fix the boy, and if they don't respond... civil suit.
2007-03-26 06:48:00 · answer #9 · answered by jennilaine777 4 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Go to th school principal or contact the police officials.
2007-03-26 06:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the boy so his parents dont find out unless the child doesnt care then the principal
2007-03-26 06:43:24 · answer #11 · answered by momentsofjoi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋