Cell phone trust , please help?

Question

I really upset about yesterday , I looked in my boyfriend's cell phone to see , if there were girls numbers in there, I know it's wrong , but it's happen before, and I told him to stop, any ways there was two more, and I yelled at him , and I asked who there are, he said you met them at a party , I took you, and he gave me his phone , and said I could get rid of them, so I did, I told him that if he was cheating on me, and if he wasn't , and If he really cared about me, and us getting married and having kids someday, that he would stop letting his girls, so called friends, stop putting numbers in his cell, I would leave him, the nexted time it happen, I told him about my 10 ex's cheated on me , like this and The way I was hurt, he said he's not like them, and said, he'll do anything I say , cause I'm the light of his world. He said they were just friends, and it wont happen again, and he started to cry, but he really hurt me, do I have a right to feel this way, I never had a guys #

Since we been together for 2 years, do I have a right to feel this way, and how can I solve it

I love him more then my life, and I bbought that cell for him.

Answer 1

Sounds like you need to trust him more. And if you feel like hes really cheating or capable of it, then there's no point in being in the relationship because you cannot control a person. If he wants to cheat...he will...you deleting numbers from his phone wouldn't stop him. And if you do trust him, then stop checking his phone and let things be.

Answer 2

WOW!

First of all, you have a right to feel however you want, it doesn't mean that it's justified though. Your boyfriend shouldn't have to be punished because you're traumatized by your past relationships. It's a clean slate with this guy and he's being treated guilty until proven innocent. Yelling at him like that is innapropriate. Especially if you're making him cry. Have some faith in him. It could cause major tension in your relationship if he feels like he's having to stifle too much of his life because you're paranoid.
People do have friends of the opposite sex.

Please see a counselor if you're still tripping out about this. I'd say the only reason this gentleman is putting up with your behavior is because he's totally whupped over you. So trust the guy for god's sake!

Answer 3

Okay.......first of all are you a controlling person that you don't want your boyfriend to have any friends? If you are I suggest you get over it because men and women can be friends without anything going on? Second of all are you going to let your past relationships determine the outcome of this one, if the answer is yes then this relationship is doomed. Learn to trust him and if anything talk to the girls and see what's going on.