i am at the end of my 31wk, sometimes i get the feeling like i will make a huge mistake or mess up my daughters life some how. i mean i tried to give her a name no one else has but she can spell early on but i still feel uneasy...has anyone else had these thoughts and feelings?
2007-03-26 06:10:23 · 15 answers · asked by t_ditty_pa 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
It's normal to feel uneasy about having a baby. Whatever name you choose will be perfect for her. Don't worry about spellling, length....choose something that makes you smile, that you like the sound of and that matches with your last name and perhaps your name too. You might want to talk to your doctor about being uneasy about things. Having postpartum depression is common and if you are feeling down about things now, it's important to be aware of it so that once the baby comes you aren''t depressed about having the baby.
You aren't making a huge mistake; everything happens for a reason and this baby is to be brought into the world by you because you are a wonderul person and will be a wonderul mother. Tell yourself that and takl to your doctor about your feelings. It also might help to find a support group of moms who you can talk to on an often basis. Having other women to tell you that they've been there too helps a lot.
Good luck
2007-03-26 06:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by schmidtee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't feel alone! Every mother at some time or other has had and continues to have these thoughts and feelings! I still have moments where I look at my kids and burst into tears as I think that they deserve better and I wonder if I'm doing everything I can to make their life the best possible life for them. Its a natural thing in motherhood. We all want our kids to have a wonderful and painless life but the reality is, somewhere, sometime they will go through pain....as a mother, you need to be there and comfort them. As long as you're a loving, caring and thoughtful mother, your child will always think you're the best. My daughter tells me all the time that I'm the best mommy (she's 4) and it warms my heart! We all make mistakes, but they rarely ruin a life!
Congratulations and best of luck!
2007-04-01 17:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Shaz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think any good mother worries about how well they are going to be able to raise their child, and many times this worry is what helps them become a good mother.
It's the mothers that DON'T worry about their children that screw up more. Just do your best and what you think is right and you should be fine. There are many different books and websites that give really good tips on raising children and I think many of them are very much worth the energy.
The name thing? Name the child what you like. Dont base it on anybody else, or if you like a common name, change the spelling.
For instance, my youngest daughter's name is Maryssa, normally spelled Marissa.
2007-04-01 00:46:41 · answer #3 · answered by Mother of three 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was really nervous when I was pregnant with my daughter 21 years ago. I knew nothing as far as babies since my main interest at the time was animals. Any way as far as her name I gave her a first and middle name with nine letters in each. She did just fine. And is now a teachers aid working with special children and will be starting college in the fall to be a teacher. Don't worry things will work out. Relax and good luck.
2007-03-31 22:27:22 · answer #4 · answered by Annabelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had feelings like this too. The only way you can mess up your childs life is by not being there for them. As long as you show them the love that they deserve you will do fine. A name is just a name, people change them all the time.
2007-04-03 12:50:27 · answer #5 · answered by ggirlgail89 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes those feelings are completely normal.
The problem is we don't get an operating or procedure manual as parents!
Its all on the job training...you will be fine.
Just remember as you baby looks at you for the first time and you melt(and you will)
you have the most important person in your life in your hands...you will mess up we all have
I look into the past and see all my mess ups and talk to my daughters about the things i messed up on and they tell me oh mom its no big deal...if you didn't mess up we wouldn't have any funny stories to tell our kids and if you didn't mess up how are we gonna know what not to do!!!
STOP WORRYING CAUSE AS A MOM YOU NEVER STOP WORRYING!!!
2007-04-03 09:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by daiseychik@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear while it is serious, it really is not. Once you have her here and you look at her, you will then know her name. Once you get her home and you continue that Mother/Daughter bond that will endure through both of your lives, you will see that what you are going through now is just anxiety. Once the years have past and she goes from being your baby, to being your toddler, to being your adolescent, to being your teenager, to being your adult child, you will find that over the years she will become your best friend next to your Mother. Then again you will look back and wonder how you got over and shed a tear for the loving times past and laugh at the anxiety you are having now. God Bless you and the new soul He is entrusting to you to nurture and let grow.
2007-03-31 07:43:46 · answer #7 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Everyone has those feelings; they are perfectly natural.
As for the name, unique names are fine but you need to think about kids teasing her if it's too different. And, God forbid, if it rhymes with something bad. :)
Otherwise, enjoy your pregnancy. Yes, you'll make mistakes. However, if you love her and address her true needs, you'll be a great mom.
2007-03-26 13:16:53 · answer #8 · answered by yet_another_realist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL! When we were leaving the hospital after my first was born, I was shocked that they were allowing us to leave with this little baby. I just knew that they had to know I was a fraud, I knew NOTHING about babies. :-) He's a great kid, 12 years old now, and I can say he's not too screwed up. That's what therapy is for! Just kidding!
2007-03-26 22:13:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think every parent has those fears. I know I have days that I feel I have ruined my children's lives and they are only 2 and 2 months. It is normal and you are not going to ruin her life, unless you leave her forever, beat her, or ignore her completely. I don't think you would do that or you wouldn't be concerned!!
2007-03-26 13:14:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋