I married to a wonderful man and we already have 3 kids. Ages 8, 6 and 4. I am a very devoted mother. After the last child was born, I had my tubes tied. I figured 3 kids were enough and I'd be satisfied. But here I am 4 years later, Wishing I could be pregnent. I am finatially stable, I have a big enough house. I am just asking, Do you think it's a smart move now, to go through the surgery and have my tubes untied? They are actually just ringed, not tied. My husband supports whatever decision I make. Do you know how likely it is to get pregnent after a reversal? Just want some feedback, thanks
2007-03-26 05:59:37 · 22 answers · asked by mommy to 2 year old triplets 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Check out this message board - several of the women there have similar experiences to yours - so ask them!
http://forums.delphiforums.com/conceive/messages
As far as advice - I would suggest that you really ask yoruself why you want another baby. Is something missing? What is it?
What about your current family dynamics - do any of yoru current children need extra attention or support (in school, etc)?
What are the risks of the procedure? How do they affect your current children?
What about opening your home to adoption?
Once you've caught "baby fever", I don't think you ever stop wanting to have kids - so don't make the goal "I'll stop when I feel done" - you'll never feel done. Make the goal, I'll stop when my family dynamics is complete.
I'm sure you've asked yoruself many questions already - you'll eventually come to a decision that is right for you and your family!
Best wishes!
2007-03-26 06:09:13 · answer #1 · answered by Stan W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Based on a friend's experience, she's had two children since having her tubes "untied." She and her husband weighed the options of untying the tubes and adoption. Medical fees for the procedures and the legal adoption fees were going to be the same either way, but consider wanting to adopt could put you on a waiting list for years. If your doctor thinks it could be done safely, that may be your best bet... but only if you're 100% positive it's what you want to do
2007-03-26 06:19:04 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, go for it, have another child, You can do it! You sound like a great mother!!! If the untieing of your tubes doesnt work out, you could try adoption! Oh you are so lucky to have such a supportive husband! there should be more couples like you! If you have a child, God bless that child. You are lucky to have the chance to have 4 babies! Best of luck!
2007-03-26 06:07:48 · answer #3 · answered by metalstefl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're a grown woman with a stable home life.
I think at this point, wanting a baby is a good enough reason to have one.
(this is mad! My kids are 8, 7, and 3, and I'm going through the same thing right now!)
2007-03-26 06:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go for it! If you are as devoted to mothering as you say you are, you should have more children. There aren't enough women like you! If you have the energy for more kids and love being a mom you should fill your home. Mothering is a specialized gift. Not every woman has a "mother's heart." The more well-mothered children we have in the world the better the world is.
2007-03-26 07:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by SAB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well,I work in a major hospital, and they say once there tied (tubes) that's it. But I have heard that some women still manage to get knocked up anyway after having their tubes tied. If you want another child, go for it because once you get to a certain age they will start telling you that bads things could potentially happpen. So, do it now while you're still kinda of young. And, it is also good for your taxes....
2007-03-26 06:06:03 · answer #6 · answered by lastyear53 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would think that you can do that. I would go to your doctor and ask about the pros and cons, and see about the after affect of having your tubes untied so that you can have another child. After that, then decide whether or not that you would like another baby and if you can safely have the child, go for it!! My best wishes to you and yours!!
2007-03-26 06:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by amymrgrt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you're looking to undo the beyond by way of making plans this child. But you continue to have time in your part, and your husband is uncertain. He is completely satisfied with the kids he has obtained and if cash is a fear, then it's going to be more difficult if one other child comes alongside. You probably getting broody considering that your three yr ancient is beyond the child degree. If you do have one other child you could good wish 'simply one other' in one other three years.
2016-09-05 16:40:34 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is a smart move. I would not do it. The huge gap in the kids' ages alone would make me not want to go through surgery for the possibility of pregnancy. Think of your kids first miss "devoted mother" before yourself.
2007-03-26 06:10:28 · answer #9 · answered by csucdartgirl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girl I know what you are going through. I have 3 kids also 8,7 and 5. my husband had a vascectomy and now I am wanting one more. We are only 28. I think if I had one more I would be happy. So I say to you that if you have talked to your husband and he agrees to have another baby, I say girl, you go for it.
2007-03-26 06:03:42 · answer #10 · answered by free4eva45 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋