My daughter is 4 and she goes to a school for special needs. She is supposed to be going there to get help with her needs. Yet everytime she comes home from schools she seems to be degressing not progressing. Just last week she came home sucking on her thumb. Which really concerns me because my daughter never even took to a pacifier. So I feel that she is not getting the help that she needs. So my question to you is should I pull her out of the school and try and find a different program for her to go to??? I have tried talking to the school about this. And I seem to get no where by talking to the teachers and doctors. They try and treat me as if I go to the school and that I need help raising my child....Please help any comments or advice would be helpful.....
2007-03-26 05:57:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
She has been going to the school since December of 2006. When she first started she was doing really well. She was making great prgress and now nothing.
2007-03-26 06:01:57 · update #1
We took her to this school to find out exactly what is wrong with her. Alot of the people in my family told me that it was all in my head, but I knew better. So I took her to this program to get her help and she what exactly is wrong. All they told me was that she has an anxiety disorder and me being her mother I know that there is more. The other thing is that they said that all she has is the anxiety disorder but yet they wont provide me any paper work on it, to say that is what she has.
2007-03-26 06:09:02 · update #2
I just thought that I would let you know that I have observed and all she does is walk around the classroom like she is lost....And there are only 8 children including my daughter and two teacher so there should be more one on one then there is.
2007-03-26 06:11:37 · update #3
if all your daughter has is an anxiety problem i dont understand why the school would keep her rather than sending her to a normal preschool (my friends kid has the same problem and goes to regular school and it's working great)
my suggestion is to change doctors and programs because obviously the doctors and teachers have no idea what they are talking about
if i knew where you were i would tell you of local programs but instead i'll give you the link to the program my daughter is in (she has speech issues)
www.patnc.org
this program is international so you should be able to find one where you live they are also free and do developmental screenings which is exactly what you need
2007-03-26 06:52:58 · answer #1 · answered by squeaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My rule of thumb as a parent is, if there is ever any doubt about the well being of your child, don't hesitate to listen to your instincts! Get her out of there and find a program that is integrated for all children! My daughter is a Gifted and Talented child but, at the school she goes to now, they put all children together...advanced, average and the learning disabled. I was not very happy about it at first because I think that if a child has an special advantage or disadvantage that they should be helped as such but, now that she has been taught this way for a few months, I see why they do it. (Of course, she is 8 so...) I am not sure what you would do about a preschool...just try to get your child in a regular preschool that will help her with whatever her special needs are. GOOD LUCK TO YOU and God Bless!
2007-03-26 06:13:36 · answer #2 · answered by Ridiculous 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ugh, I feel your pain. My son is now 4 and has PDD NOS, which is a mild form of autism. When he was three, he started at our public preschool so he could receive speech, OT and PT. Anyways - when he first started, he was in a classroom with all kids with special needs - and he was the highest functioning - so he definitely regressed in a lot of areas and picked up some "bad habits" per se. It was a double edged sword - he needed that classroom for the ABA therapy, but was picking up all these awful traits he didn't have before.
What finally worked for us, is we were able to have him moved into a classroom where he is mainstreamed with "typical" kids for the morning, and then in the afternoon, he is with all special needs kids, but more higher functioning ones, similar to him.
ANyways, with that said - is there any way your daughter could function in a mainstream classroom - even if its with an aide of some sort? We were on the fence on whether to go with a special needs school or do public... but what sold us is I think its so important that special needs kids have "typical" kid role models, that they be with their peers. My son has made huge strides since being mainstreamed. I don't know all your circumstances so I'm not sure if she's been diagnosed, has an IEP or anything, or whats best.... but if you can find a really good developmental pediatrician, and an advocate, they can really help you navigate what is the best schooling route for your special needs child. We had a lot of success in our public preschool, but its not for everyone. I wish you the best of luck!!
2007-03-26 06:44:33 · answer #3 · answered by Mom 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My sister is a special needs student. My parents as well had her in classes and going to doctors at a young age. She likes school, but she is not good at it, and as well she doesn't progress in school she only seems to go backwards in school. She is now 21 years old and is still in all kinds of schooling to try and help her. She did make it through high school but only got a special diploma. She is now working on getting her GED because a special diploma is just like having no diploma at all. My idea of these schools to help special needs students is that they really do not help out children that have these types of problems. I think that maybe you could try another program, but if it doesn't help them probably none of these programs will work.
2007-03-26 06:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by punkxrocker3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your daughter is only degressing and not progressing and teachers are not taking you seriously then it is time to find another school for her. Parents and teachers should be willing to work with eachother in any situation but definately so when it comes to special needs.
2007-03-26 06:05:41 · answer #5 · answered by mom2ace 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd take her out and find another program. Sounds like she's copying the things others in her class do. To help her with her needs, I'd say she's outgrown their program. Mom to 3 and aunt to a special needs child.
2007-03-26 06:03:46 · answer #6 · answered by Melanie A 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you should look in to a better school for her she needs more one on one time and if she is regressing then she is losing ground and you want tot stop this as soon as you can most of these schools are government funded and just day care s\for these kids their not there to help them just house them until they more to a different school find her help now
2007-03-26 07:39:11 · answer #7 · answered by debrasearch 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you have the right to observe, go to the school for a couple of days and observe, then make a decision
2007-03-26 06:08:09 · answer #8 · answered by melissa s 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋