should i break up with my boyfriend?

Question

my bf cheated on me but im afraid to breakup with him.i dont know what to do

Answer 1

Cheated on you... on what? If its on serious matters then I recommend no, don't go ahead with the relation and stupid matters I recommend yes go ahead with him.

Answer 2

It depends upon a lot of things:
lots of Q to ask and answer.
how many times ...
do you suspect more than what he's willing to tell--or how did you find out anyway?
it is true what a lot of people are saying here ... once a cheater .. but it is not ALWAYS.
ALWAYS is a dangerous word. USUALLY makes more sense. If you just make snap decisions on this--you might be sorry in the end.
for all we know--your "best girlfriend" might have led you to believe he is unfaithful--be case she wants him for herself.
Don't do anything yet--and for god's sake .... post more info on this question or pose a new one with all of the details everyone is suggesting you get--before you do anything.
I dated someone once and admitted having feelings of wanting to cheat--hoping my honesty would be rewarded with more intimacy--or at least an open discussion.
I got dumped by the love of my life.
That was 25 years ago and the person still won't talk to me.
go figure ...

Answer 3

Of course you should. Why would you want to stay with somebody who does not respect you? You know in your heart you should because other wise you would not even be thinking about it.

I know how scary it could be, I had to break up with somebody I was with for 12 yrs because of the same thing. It feels like you wont be able to live without him, that your world will change. It will change, but for the better. It might take a while to get use to life without that person, but in time, you will find a whole new life. Sometimes you come to realize that you were not as happy as you thought you were.

Good luck.

Answer 4

There really isn't enough information to give you a good answer. How long were you all together? Do you live together? Are there children involved? I believe once a cheat always a cheat. But on that same token all relationships can be saved if that's what you both want.

Answer 5

I recently broke up with my bf for the same reason. You are going to get a lot of responses telling you to kick his *** to the curb or telling you "once a cheater always a cheater". Those are great things to hear and be aware of. You should break up with him, he will respect you more for standing up for yourself. What I did was I broke up with him and told him that I would be friends with him (none of my friends thought that was a good idea). But now he is my best friend and he wants me back!! Now I am the one in control of the relationship and where it goes from here. No matter what you decide to do, stand up for yourself and know what you are not willing to put up with...you are better than someone treating you like that!! Keep your head up, it will get better...promise!

Answer 6

Well if you don't...he will do it again. It's human nature. If people do something that's "not right" and aren't "disciplined" then they tend to think that it's ok to do it again...and again. Did he admit it? Did you find out? Did someone tell you? Did you the girl tell you? If he came clean, it means he either felt bad and has a concience and wants to work it out OR he doesn't want to be with you anymore and didn't know how to break up with you so he wants you to do it. You gotta take all these to analyze...BUT he did cheat on you. I've broken up w/guys that cheated on me...regardless of how much I "loved" him or he loved me.

Answer 7

I understand where you are coming from. I was in the same situation myself. You have strong feelings for him, but you can't trust him anymore. My boyfriend and I broke up and went our separate ways, and eight months later out of no where we found our way back to each other. It has worked for us. I know you are probably scared of being alone or about the idea that somebody else may end up your man if you dump him, but you can't let these feelings stop you from doing what you have to do. People do make mistakes and he may truly be sorry, but staying with him out of insecurities is not the smart thing to do. Really think about why you are still with him and make your final decision from that. GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 8

He cheated, break up. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Plus, there's no trust in the relationship anymore.

Answer 9

I have been through the same situation. It is incredibly hard to just "break up" with someone that you have fallen in love with, but please think what is best for YOU! Try to be strong! In the end, you will have no regrets... but he will ;). Having said that, I'm not exactly sure what it is you're afraid of, is he aggressive or does he hurt you in any way? If so, please get some help!! TAKE CARE!!

Answer 10

Are you afraid of what?
of being alone?
of never find another guy?
Girl you have just one life and there's no time to waste it living something we don't want to live, don't you think?
so even that You know you have the answer, you may try to talk to him and tell him what it's happening inside your heart and mind so when both talk decisions are maybe painful but necessaries, and remember living a lie is like living and die!

Answer 11

how did you find out he cheated?? what are you afraid of?? you know there is more guys out there in this world for you to be worried about just one. if he cheated on you and he knows that you know and isn't doing anything to try and fix it. then girl he's not worth the hurt that you have. kick him to the side and get your self back on track.
best wishes to you!!!