I have thought some more, and I need to say no to your offer of continued communication because it shows no respect for me.
I do not care about your level of committment; I only cared that there was some reciprocity, friendship, or feeling in your offer. My agenda wasn't necessarily getting back together with you, but just talking, but if I am not at all important to you, and you do not on some level like, respect, and appreciate me, than this is a waste of my time and you are making me a worthless offer. If the email you wrote is the result of a conversation which hurt or scared you, you would need to tell me, but I am not going to be placed in a position of proving myself when I am not being offered any footing that is secure for me, because I can only lose. If I am insecure in regards to you, and you find this overwhelming, it is because your behavior has made me so, and if you chose to view me in this light because of this, that is up to you
2007-03-26 05:45:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the letter IS great. It seemed to help you get things clear in your mind.
I don't think I'd send it to the other person, though.
It sounds pretty clear that you are fed-up and overwhelmed with the past concerning this person.
Unless you want to stay all tangled up in it, I would just let sleeping dogs lie, so to speak.
They probably wouldn't "get" all you are saying here anyway (from the read of it) and you'd find yourself even more overwhelmed than you already are.
Be confident that you've made up your mind and you know what your limits are.
2007-03-26 05:52:59 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs.M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never take letters seriously, if you want to get your point across say it in person. That person will infact take you much more seriously, I believe sending a letter is a lack of confidence or very cowardly. On the other hand you may do it to avoid confrentation but you will still recieve it either way. Best to tell the person to there face point blank.
2007-03-26 12:52:37 · answer #2 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lady you really have a problem. I already told you to just let it go. This letter proves the fact you are a basket case. Let it go honey you keep saying you are over him. Prove it. You sound like a fool in this letter. He is never going to read it all the way through, it will only give his friends a good laugh.
2007-03-26 12:51:37 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't listen to that lilly woman she is truly the basket case she has sent me emails calling me crazy you do what you believe is good for you if a letter gives you closure then send it even though it could used against you later if he decides he wants to be a jerk and show it to his friends then again he might not even read it and just crumble it up and throw it away the best thing is to talk to him but if you feel better sending the letter then do it
2007-03-26 15:07:28 · answer #4 · answered by maranzano doll 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the very first sentence, less the 'because..' is enough.
what you could say is, Out of respect for myself, I will say no to your offer...
the rest is just pent up frustration and wont be heard or read unfortunately.
:( good luck peace
2007-03-26 12:57:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds familar. I say leave her alone and cut off all contact. Emails, IMs, SMS, Phones, Mail ALL contact.
2007-03-26 12:57:22 · answer #6 · answered by picturemeclubbing 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes ,
I think it shows you are very mature and want closure . In my breakup with my ex bf there was none . Send it and see what happens or what response you get .
C
2007-03-26 12:52:12 · answer #7 · answered by Constance M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone. In this case, actions speak louder than words.
2007-03-26 12:49:07 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave it alone
2007-03-26 12:49:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋