okay, so if you are a guy, and you ask me to dinner....
a) you are interested, right?
b) what should i order?
c) anything not sapose to happen at dinner?
d) why did you ask?
e) what is exspected to happen?
i just want to know, from a guys perspective, what it means, when a girl is asked out to dinner.......... what the guy things should happen, and all of that.
(im new to the dating cirrcut, and guys and girls have different opinions, so let me know.....)
2007-03-26 05:44:45 · 11 answers · asked by smcopeland16 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
A. Yes, I would be interested but you have to know what he is interested in; friendship or a stable gf/bf relationship.
B. If this person who asked you out respects you for who you are, then you should order what you desire and not what he can order for you. That smacks of 40's and 50's delusions of the "man being in charge" when you are a woman who can make up her own mind and let him or the waiter know what you wish to order. That is porper etiquette in the sense of making you important for he knows of your desires but still allows you to do the ordering if you so wish.
C. I do hope, during the course of your evening plans, that he respects your distance and does not sit next to you but across from you. This is important for the both of you in "giving you your full face attention" to one another so that you may both concentrate on each other and not having "wandering eyes" as you converse together. If he is a true gentleman, his total focus should be on you, as well as you on him. This so much shows respect and wanting to "know" who this person is and what you are like. If this is your first time out to dinner, there is not supposed to be any holding of hands, going from your home to the car, from the car to the restuarant, to the car and back home. But, there can be the traditional grouping of your arm in his arm as he escorts you to your seat and that he will stand until you are seated. Depending upon your relationship with this person, many subjects can be talked about but it is usually the woman who controls what is talked about.
D. We, men, in general, ask so that we may come to know and learn of who you are, your past, your future, where you work, what kind of family life you have lead, did you go to college, had any past heartaches, do you drink and so on. It is a way for him, as well as the woman, to "look past the physical being" and see into the hearts of those who you hope may become close in the future.
E. This last question has eroded over the years as to what men want after such a night out with a woman. It seems that in society today that men "expect compensation" for the evening and so many want sexual favors after the evening at the restaurant has concluded. I find this sophmoric and immature behaviour on the male being. In my humble opinion, he should honor you by not wanting a sexual tryst. He should respect you as a woman and let you know that he is being "chivalrist" in honoring you as a person and not a sex object. That funny saying of "he should love my mind and not by body" comes to the fore front.
I hope this helps in your continuing efforts to find the right course in dinner plans throughout your life. Happy dining
2007-03-26 06:16:00 · answer #1 · answered by Serpico 13 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
A. Yes, we're interested in dinner, getting to know you, and seeing if there's anything there. It doesn't mean we want to jump into a relationship.
We may want to have sex with you. If that's the case then we'll really push the alcohol.
B. Don't order just salad. That drives us nuts. Don't order the most expensive thing. If you want to be very diplomatic then ask him what he's going to order then order something in that price range.
C. Don't get drunk (unless you're thinking about sex). Don't flirt too much (unless you're thinking about sex). Don't be too touchy feely (unless your thinking about sex).
D. See A.
E. Talk and eating. That's it.
If you do hav sex, then do not expect a relationship beyond sex. Odds are the guy won't call again anyway.
2007-03-26 05:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a) you are interested, right?
Yes, since dinner is much more expensive than coffee
b) what should i order?
Something that you will enjoy but not too expensive
c) anything not sapose to happen at dinner?
d) why did you ask?
I'm interested in finding out more about you socially
e) what is exspected to happen?
We have a nice meal.
2007-03-26 05:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
a. If he asks you to dinner, just the two of you, he is probably interested in you.
b. You should order what you want to eat, and if it's the most expensive thing on the menu, offer to cover your portion of the bill. If he likes you, and he is a gentleman, he'll still pay for you. Personal opinion, ladies who don't eat much at dinner to be polite are too concerned with what I'm going to think of them when all I want to know is who they are as people; changing their dietary habits for me rather than for themselves is kinda creepy, considering we probably aren't that close.
c. Not sure what you mean. Be who you are.
d. Unless I'm actually asking you, I can't answer that.
e. It's expected that you hold conversation and eat dinner. Anyone that demands physical contact is obviously a jerk.
2007-03-26 05:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by Nathan C 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a) Yes
b) Whatever you want. Don't just get a salad, eat real food.
c) Long silences, fighting.
d) Probably because you're cute.
e) Expected to have a lovely time which will hopefully lead to another dinner/date or a romp in the sack...depending on the guy.
2007-03-26 05:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by sleepymcgee 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-01 12:34:42 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) yeah im interested... im also new..vll have a gud experianc..lol
b) u b urself go 4 something which one can share...something for which u dnt hv to open ur mouth wide
c) watever u put in ur mouth shuld not fall down.. try that doesnt hapen...it should b just a dinner...may b some dance also..but not the disco one.. simple.inocent and slow dance...
d) ofcource i asked coz i like you...
.but the guy who asked u may hv asked u out just coz he hv no other grl to take out wid him...or he loves you...
e) its v much expected that finally u got a proposal..... coz u r so so so lovable...
2007-03-26 20:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) Yes
b) Something you would enjoy
c) Don't walk out on him if he is a dud
d) Usually because we are interested (see A)
e) Depends on the type of guy. I expected nothing on my first dates other guys think its a one night stand every time they go out. Personally its ok to give him a good night kiss if you are interested in a second date.
2007-03-26 05:53:12 · answer #8 · answered by kyrie_eleison_gr 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
from my perspective i think dinner is to get to know the person better and exchange perspective, share emotions, and also see what both have in common
2007-03-26 05:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by bigshot_2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
a. im interested in that little stinky thing between your legs
b. the cheapest thing possible
c. you shouldnt talk much
d. see answer to question a.
e. you should pay for it
2007-03-26 05:49:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋