How can I differenciate between a real lover and a player?

Question

Should they start with the same sweet words at first and then comes either happiness or disappointment! How to know the difference from the start?

Answer 1

A real lover would care about everything going on in your life. From your cat, to if there is enough pop in the fridge. A player wouldnt care if you showered or not.

Answer 2

Age makes a difference. Players and lovers mature. There are other categories as well, but I will describe the player.

When he decides who to play , He will give a knowing smile as he singles you out. His confidence will make you lose composure. He is aware of the effect he has on you. He does not fumble his words. His words are well chosen. He seldom makes mistakes.

Some players enter a room and look at no one but are very aware of who is checking them out. They sometime give a very fast look and focus to your discomfort . At that time they turn away or make their move . Walking slowly but deliberately in your direction without losing eye contact.


He will touch you lightly in an innocent way always seeing how he affects you. He will usually whisper something in your ear, brushing his lips across them.

Your date with him will seem spontaneous , believe me , it is not. It is well planned. He is always ready to score but is never upset when he doesn't. He will take note of your dress and perfume. Some players write it down. They are already planning the next time.

If he has his own place and has an excuse to stop by, you will notice the stage is set . Dim lighting , music may already be playing. The bed may even be turned down.

The lover may clumsy, he may not be able to keep eye contact. He may ask you where you would want to go. He doesn't want to be in control, just near you. when he touches you , his hand won't be as steady as the player. To the lover , you are special and he feels blessed to be at your side.
He will fumble and make mistakes. The more in awe he is the more he'll mess up. You are too important to him. Give him time, he's serious.

The player I mentioned is mature late twenties early thirties

Younger players make mistakes , they are cute but usually obnoxious , very full of them selves. They learn quickly that some slip through their fingers that way. they even make the mistake of looking at other girls when they're out with you. The mature player would not, neither would the real lover.


I tried to keep it short.

Answer 3

Hi

The only clue that I have to tell the difference is body language and what they say . Yes , in the beginning they are all nice but can change so quickly once you get to know them or sleep with them .

I guess time is the only way to know and how they interact with you .

C

Answer 4

Time, experiance, and good judgement. Trust your instincts and don't rush into anything. Set down your rules. A real man will respect them. A player will try to change your mind.

Answer 5

A real lover will tell you they love you and a player you know what they want.

Answer 6

Players make it their game to tell you what you want to hear and they manipulate and take advantage of your feelings and at the same time are lying to you. Someone who's real isnt going to tell you a load of crap because it's what you want to hear and they're genuine about what they say versus a player who isnt genuine at all and is fake about their feelings.

Answer 7

It's called dating. You get to know them and don't a)jump in the sack with him right away or b) jump into a relationship with him right away.

Answer 8

you can tell the difference if they never change no matter who they are around you can tell by how many imes they call u or if they even call at all you can tell by how many times you have sex with them

Answer 9

a lover will try to hard to get your attention

Answer 10

don know
- has pretty boy clothes
- has pretty boy shoes
- has pretty boy haircuts
- has pretty boy smell
there u go