My bf and I broke up, but have been spending a lot of time together lately. At first, we were just hanging out with other mutual friends, but lately we've also added time where it's just the two of us (or the two of us and my 8-yr-old). He helped me fix my computer, and hang pictures, etc. and even told me to make him a list of things that he could help me out with or that needed fixing around the house. I had a cook-out this weekend and he stayed around to help me clean up, but then we just hung out for an hour after everyone else went home. Last night we hung pictures, then sat and talked for hours. We talk on the phone, we email, we sit next to one another in church. Sigh....
So...I'm confused. Is this typical behavior for someone who doesn't want to be dating? How do I know if he is regretting the break-up?
2007-03-26 05:36:37 · 8 answers · asked by loves2sing 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He broke up with me because he said that he wasn't falling in love with me. But he is recently divorced, and I think that he got a little freaked out. The pain from his divorce is still really fresh in his mind. I can see it when he talks about "her". I know he doesn't love her anymore...but it's still really tough. I think the hurt will be there for a while...but I've never been divorced, so I'm speculating.
2007-03-26 05:38:09 · update #1
***We only dated for 5 months, so I am not surprised that he wasn't falling in love yet. I think that it would be more unusual if he was!
2007-03-26 05:56:14 · update #2
You can just be his friend and see where it goes. A divorce is hard especially if it lasted for more than 5 years. Maybe she hurt him bad and he does not trust any women right now. Give him some time and he will come around.
2007-03-26 05:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it is easier for him to be your friend than bf.
He obviously likes you as a person and knows you need a little help.
I wouldn't look at his kindness as regret, I would take it for what it is.
I think in all honesty if he regretted it he would say so..
He is just letting you know even if it didn't work out as bf/gf he is still your friend and does like you and your 8 year old.
Once you meet someone else I am sure he will fade out of the picture.
I wouldn"t read into it anything that is not there or spoken....
2007-03-26 12:42:08 · answer #2 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he needs you as a friend right now. Maybe he's feeling lonely because of his divorce, but like he told you, isn't necessarily in love with you. If I were you, I'd wait until he comes out and says he wants to be romantically involved with you. It sounds like you're being a really good friend and not pressuring him, and if he's hurting right now, then pressuring him will only make matters worse for you. You should be his friend right now.
2007-03-26 12:41:50 · answer #3 · answered by gidget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he means any harm by breaking up with you. I just think he may need some time to heal. I can tell he cares about you a lot but at this time he can't commit. Be patient and in due time he'll come around.
2007-03-26 12:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by sugarplum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he does care for you but he is not ready to jump into a serious relationship as of yet. I would give him time and maybe just be there as a friend. If its killing you inside though you should take care of yourself first and cut off ties for awhile.
2007-03-26 12:41:49 · answer #5 · answered by Megs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he just needs a good friends to help him cope will the divorce and that's where u come in
2007-03-26 12:40:49 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who broke up with who? Maybe he feels guilty and he is trying to make himself feel better, or maybe he still have feelings and wants to start something up again. You should ask him what's going on in his head.
2007-03-26 12:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by Doreen A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don know
it's tough competing with his ex wife's fresh new batteries.
2007-03-26 12:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋