I have this guy I've been seeing since February 14, 2007. I like everything about him, accept how he won't even pay for a $10 movie ticket. He makes me pay him back for the smallest items and tells me he's stingy with money. If he takes me out for dinner, and I take him out for dinner next week to pay him back (since that's the only way I can get him to pay for me at that time), he will remind me over and over how the dinner he took me out for was so much more expensive than the one I took us out on.
Yet, he says he doesn't want to get married until he can spoil his wife.
What's going on? I feel like a "friend", even though we aren't, and my self esteem is lowering. How should I confront him?
2007-03-26 05:30:58 · 9 answers · asked by Richelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't understand why your self-esteem is part of the equation? It shouldn't be- he's stingy, and that obvioulsy comes from before he met you, so why would you think it has anything to do with you? so first thing, get that out of your head, and don't mix the two up.
second- if you really like him and want to keep this thing going with him, you need to tackle the problem. talk to him, send him an email, write him a letter, whatever you do, communicate to him somehow that this bothers you, otherwise he has every right to think that you're ok with it. don't attack him with this though, or he'll just get defensive and he won't budge. but it sounds like a solveable issue- he just has to relax a bit more, and maybe if he sees that every now and then you're willing to spoil him too, he won't feel so protective of his money.
2007-03-26 05:41:41 · answer #1 · answered by chickie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's a excellent character instead of him being affordable, then do not get a divorce with him, however him being affordable is some thing that should be labored on. Men most commonly deal with those matters, however do you suppose that you've given him the impact that you've sufficient cash so he does not ought to supply you any? I have no idea what your complete difficulty is, however some thing demands to be performed. Of direction it's not all approximately cash. You don't seem to be a golddigger and also you appear very impartial, however guys ususally do take the initiative to pay for nights out like that. Maybe you must point out to him that you just 2 must take turns, like someday he can pay for so much of the whole thing and the following night time out you are going to pay and might be so one can holiday the cycle and might be a pair nights out in town, put out of your mind your pockets and notice how beneficiant he's going to turn out to be. If he is not all that beneficiant then might be you must uncover anybody else.
2016-09-05 16:39:38 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh - that's horrible. Aren't you glad you're not his wife??? It's a ruse - he'll be mean all his life.
Oh please, move on. Unfortunately some other poor unsuspecting girl will take him on.
Do you know, I can accept the meanness but to remind you of how much the meal cost - that's just tacky!!!!!
I just thought - if you confront him, please tell him he makes you feel cheap.
BTW My husband is tight - and I often pay for things. That's not the issue - in this day and age, it is expected. But he's never ever been rude to remind me of how much I owe him.
2007-03-26 05:35:59 · answer #3 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun let me tell you something if he that cheap now he will never change i believe in every thing being equal but that just plain rude you need to tell him how you feel how you feel. No girl should get treated like that and if he is lowing your self esteem drop him you will find some one that deserves you and will pay for you meals!
2007-03-26 05:41:22 · answer #4 · answered by Kstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you deserve someone you is willing to treat you like a queen and you should want a man you want to treat like a king . i've been with my boyfriend for 4 years and if i should pay him back for everything he bough me or paid for i think i would go broke!!!! we dont check who's paying what. just sometime i pay sometime he pay. it's whoever has the money in hand. anyway i dont think there is much of a future with him...at least not until he decide to see what's going on and decide to do something about it
good luck :)
2007-03-26 05:42:37 · answer #5 · answered by marcnancy1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My God what a total loser! What kind of dude would do that? Let him take you to dinner and then pay him back and tell him to shove it up his *** and never talk to him again. What kind of gentleman is that?? Me and my honey split dinner's sometimes but never says o will you pay me for your's? Leave him
2007-03-26 05:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
another broad with a princess comlex who thinks just because she has a vagina a man should have to pay for everything
it sounds to me like you want a whore/jon business arrangement instead of a relationship
be an adult and pay your own way through life
2007-03-26 05:39:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think that u should leave homeboy alone cuz thatz bull and I think that he doesnt really have interest. He just wants to play cuz if he had interest he would not want things in return 4 wat he gave u!!!!!!
2007-03-26 05:37:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't be so spoiled..
be glad he's careful with his money.. :) it means it stays around longer..
if it upsets you that much.. go find a richer boyfriend who doesn't care about money
2007-03-26 05:35:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋