I love my bf so much, but its seems im the one who always wnat to be with him, most of the time. Because of that i felt bad and lonely, everything i do is for him and i'm so scared whats going to happen with me if his not around, he love me so much that's for sure, but i think being needy is not healthy in our realationship. please help
2007-03-26 05:28:50 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Been there felt that way sister. I applaud you for recognizing you have an issue. I tripped through so many relationships not realizing what I was doing to contribute to thier demise.
My suggestion, do the exact opposite of what your heart tells you to do right now, focus on you for a while. You need to figure out why you are this way...and there is always a reason. And you need to do it for YOU not this relationship. Think of how much stronger things will be when you get yourself back.
So many women have this idea that we need a man to complete us. Not true. They should be the topping on the cake.
So my advice. Get some counseling. If you can, discuss how you are feeling with your boyfriend, and tell him you are planning to get help for it.
I know you feel weak right now, but the truth is you are very strong. Its so hard to face our own shortcomings, but when you do, you come out even stronger!!!
Good luck.
2007-03-26 05:44:19 · answer #1 · answered by CHELLE BELLE 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So don't be needy. Don't worry so much about what could happen if hes not around. You have probably been without a boyfriend in the past, and I'm sure nothing bad happened. The one thing I had to realize is that, if it doesn't work out with this guy, there are plenty of others out there and I won't die. It would hurt but you will survive if it doesn't work. but for now stop stressing or else you will unknownly kill your relationship.
2007-03-26 05:36:53 · answer #2 · answered by Just a girl... 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 12:33:56 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wanting to be with him alot isn't so bad. Just find something else fun you enjoy so it doesn't seem all about him. But truely if you feel "scared and needy" he may not be the guy for you. The right guy wants to spend time with you as much as you want to spend with them. Talk to your b/f about it and see how that goes. If he agrees you are being needy, he's not right for you.
2007-03-26 05:38:57 · answer #4 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct that being needy and insecure is not healthy. But realize that he is not the cause of this...and therefore you must find out why it is that you have come to this. There has to be a reason and you have to find that...then work on yourself from there.
2007-03-26 05:32:30 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men don't like neediness! They like a little bit, but it isn't long before their neediness cup is filled. You need to find new interests, new things to do, and stop worrying about your relationship. That alone will cause him to walk away. Men want a secure woman.
2007-03-26 05:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by Aiden 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Life is about give and take ... and is applied in love too which is the source of life. If things are not mutual that way .. I recommend to fly away to another flower ... its spring time.
Nice day.
2007-03-26 05:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by Sara007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you need to develop a hobby and some new friends or to reconnect with old ones
2007-03-26 05:34:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a co-dependant... that is not healthy.
Read some books and maybe consider getting professional help.
2007-03-26 05:33:50 · answer #9 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋