can i wear a fancy wedding dress? or do i have to wear something simple less beatiful, a cousin of myne said that the dress i picked out "oleg cassini " i should not be wearing for the simple fact this is my second marriage. I beg to differ i was not lucky in love the first time and did not have my dream wedding now i am truely in love and want that dream wedding can anyone give me some helpfull insight?
2007-03-26 05:28:48 · 29 answers · asked by coboltgal76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
i think regardless of how many times you have gotten married...
i would think you should have the wedding you want..
2007-03-26 05:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
Ok don't listen to some of the people on here.
I am a certified wedding planner and here is the etiquette rules surrounding second marriages.
First of all White has nothing to do with virginity. It is the veil that symbolizes virginity.
Traditionally Wedding Dresses were various colours usually blue and it was Queen Victoria who decided to wear a white dress because she had been to Spain and white was popular in Spain. She fell in love with a particular white dress. She just started a trend that has lasted.
So if you are not a virgin then you should not wear a full veil. But as for the dress wear the biggest whitest dress you want.
The really only other documented etiquette regarding second marriages is that you should not have showers and other fundraisers (like buck n does) or anything else to bring in gifts or money.
Other than that you can have a wedding as traditional and non traditional as you'd like.
Good Luck!!
2007-03-26 07:27:53 · answer #2 · answered by rickybobbi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I know this is going to annoy you, but....
It's your day, it's your wedding...do what will make you happy. Yes, there is that tradition bit about not wearing white, but then again, only virgins shoudl wear white, and I'd like to see just how many people follow that rule as well! Why have ANOTHER low key wedding? I think if you get married a second time, you should make the wedding TOTALLY different, with no commonalities between this one and the first. You wouldn't want to feel like you are marrying the first person again. If you want a big wedding this time, go for it. Your day, your wedding, your call. Good Luck!
2007-03-26 06:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by Nicole 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Now that is something that is totally up to you and the budget you can aford. If you've been married once but didn't have the ceremony as you wished it to be, there are no rules stating that you can't have the big ceremony. There are no rules to the kind of dress you can wear either. White is no longer the dress that was once used to sybolise purity, it is now something that women wear to sybolise their love for their groom. Some women do have the chance to wear white for what it once was meant for, but again there are no rules to this anymore.
If you want a big wedding, the one you truly dream of, have it. have all the bells and whistles that come with finding the one true love of your life. And enjoy that dream wedding.
2007-03-26 06:11:01 · answer #4 · answered by WI Wedding Lady 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can wear whatever your heart desires. It is your and your husband-to-be's day. I have been to a few 2nd time weddings.
The only difference nowadays is that if it is the 2nd wedding, don't wear the blusher veil and have a real long train.
If you are going to have a dream wedding then why not have your dream dress!
Have your dress match the theme of the wedding. If it is formal and romantic then your dress should match. If it is simple then go with simple.
In my opinion, go for it!!
2007-03-26 07:36:45 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a cousin who was got married in a white traditional wedding dress even though it was her second wedding. She complained that she never had a nice wedding the first time around so she was entitled to it. While she thought it was nice everyone kind of thought it looked ridiculous, considering she was in her early 50's with grown children in their 30's. Nonetheless, it was a nice wedding. Moral of the story........do whatever the heck you want to do because either way people will have something to say.
2007-03-26 06:23:27 · answer #6 · answered by Kimmy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can wear anything you want, it's your wedding. Doesn't matter if you've been married once, twice or ten times before. Go as fancy or as simple as you'd like, even if you had done it all before. It's completely up to you! Seriously, you can have as many "dream weddings" as you need to find the right person. Go for it.
2007-03-26 05:42:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Its your wedding. If you want tradition its up to you. No one should judge you just because it is a 2nd marriage! I personally love the Oleg Cassini line!
2007-03-26 08:46:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your day your decision,movie stars still wear gorgeous gowns to wedding 5 and 6,and your only on your second forget what your cousin says,be as beautiful as you please and tell her to shut her pie hole.
P.S :This whole wearing white tradition is ridiculous. The white wedding dress was made popular by Anne of Brittany in 1499. Before that, a woman just wore her best dress. In ancient days, blue (not white) represented purity, and the bride and groom would wear a blue band around the bottom of their wedding attire, hence something blue.So forget what these people think of "tradition" it comes and goes.
Heres something to make you giggle.
Married in White, you have chosen right
Married in Grey, you will go far away,
Married in Black, you will wish yourself back,
Married in Red, you will wish yourself dead,
Married in Green, ashamed to be seen,
Married in Blue, you will always be true,
Married in Pearl, you will live in a whirl,
Married in Yellow, ashamed of your fellow,
Married in Brown, you will live in the town,
Married in Pink, your spirit will sink
2007-03-26 14:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your first wedding has no bearing on this wedding.
Used to be that 2nd weddings were done quickly & quietly without much ado. But not any more.
You have lost love & found it! So why not celebrate it?
The only thing I suggest in to not gointo debt or put a financial burden on anyone involved.
So, get to planning. Enjoy this process, have fun.
Good luck!
2007-03-26 05:53:18 · answer #10 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter what you do, some sourpuss is going to criticize the decisions you make about how to celebrate your wedding, so if I were you I'd follow my instincts and decide not to care too much about what other people say or think about my wedding plans. Why throttle back on the happiness??
Go for it! Have fun!
And congratulations!!
2007-03-26 08:18:58 · answer #11 · answered by Parrot Eyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋