hi i was in love with this guy for 4 months, i met him through chat line a very nice guy, but i lied to him.?

Question

He was very upset and my friend added to the lie which he found out later. He is thinking that i am married but in fact i am not, i have a bad past but i do not know if i tell himnow will he accept me, i never knew i will miss so much and i really love him so much, wat to do now? I am so tempted to call him but i wonder wat will he think.

He was very upset and my friend added to the lie which he found out later. He is thinking that i am married but in fact i am not, i have a bad past but i do not know if i tell himnow will he accept me, i never knew i will miss so much and i really love him so much, wat to do now? I am so tempted to call him but i wonder wat will he think.

i did not mean to cheat him but my friend was up to making up the story. I wonder wat he feel about him now. really regret of wat i did n i cant forgive myself for cheating him. I feel so down up to the level i thinki want to kill myself. Darn u mean a lot for me, i am sorry n i love u s much. God i really dont know how to handle this.

Answer 1

Why dont u tell him the real truth and make him understand why you did that .Tell him that it was nt safe starting to tell your identity .Now you trust him and you want him to know the truth , be straight forward , if he loves u he ll come back to u:.

Answer 2

Girl, I have a friend 2 whom i love soo much. We met over the phone, communicatong 4 almost 2 years by emails or calls, everyday!!!! U know wat, At first i cant tell my past...im afraid that he will not accept me...but i took the risk of telling him....U c, right now, we are more than like best friends,,,,He is from US and Im from Philippines, u c for almost 2 yrs, everyday he will buy card for him to call me, i do the same thing...
What i mean about this, if you feel like the guy s true,sincere, u feel trusting him, dont be afraid to tell the truth..whatever it is..Now if in the end he cant accept you, that only menas he want something from u..(w/c s not gud)...
Telling the truth in the first palce makes the friendship more stronger u know...
and my advice, if he s your chatmate,,and u feel lyk wanting him already, better start to a friendship...dont jump to being boyfriends already...
Remeber, anyone can be Anyone in internet...You can be even a famous actor, a scientist or whatever in internet..
So be careful my friend....

Answer 3

Well if you love him that much then you should tell him, cause if he loves you just as much he will look past it and as for your past...the past is in the past and you can leave it there untill you are ready to come forward with it. No matter how bad things may seem its not as bad as you think and things can only get better....ive seen realationships like yours work out just fine in the end cause both of them loved each other so plz dont kill yourself, your a good person cause you feel bad for cheating and if i were for him i would forgive you.

Answer 4

ok first of all, NEVER LIE to someone you love, you have to be always honest. he may never trust you now, but you can correct your mistake, i know every one makes mistakes, ive made many, but you have to sit down and tell you you two need to talk, tell him that you want him to just listen to what you have to say, then he can have his say. tell him the truth about the whole matter, and only then can he decide on whether he wants it to go further or not. if he does, well done, just dont lie to him again... but if he doesnt, he may feel hurt and used, he may realise at a later date that he wants to give you another chance, just dont give him an ultimatum.. the best thing you can do is tell him and wait for his response, put the ball in his court... but dont run after him... thats a big NO NO!!! hope i helped :)

Answer 5

You must not lie, this is real stupid, did you really think you will get away with a lie?

Now you have only one chance, tell him the entire truth, the ENTIRE truth, what ever it is. Tell him you made a mistake, you regret it and that you love him.

Do so by calling him (you need guts for this) or by writing a personal LETTER (no email, no sms or whatever, a handwritten LETTER!)

Then hope for the bet and accept whatever outcome.

I wish you good luck, we all make mistakes and nobody is perfect. I hope he recognizes this.

Answer 6

Let this be a valuable lesson to you. Lying kills relationships. Without trust, there is no relationship. You have probably lost this poor guy and it would be best for him if you leave him alone. I'm sorry you lost this wonderful friend, but learn from it. Do not lie. Lies kill love.

Answer 7

I hate people who lie to me, so I told my GF upfront that I don't like liars. What I suggest you do, tell him the truth. Be completly honest with him and then let it in his hands. If he wants to be with you, then he will, but starting a relationship on a lie is not the way to go.

Answer 8

how do we know you're not lying to us now with this question? This is precisely why people shouldn't meet people on chat lines, too many liars. Leave him alone and next time meet someone elsewhere else and just tell the truth.

Answer 9

i was in a relationship where it started in a chat line and i lied to him as well about alot of things and i came clean and it took about 20 mins for him to settle and think it through but he accepted me because he loved me.be honest and call u never know what might happen.good luck

Answer 10

Do you really think that you would cheat on him if you really loved him?? If your answer is yes you are a great example of the decay of Human Culture.