Ive like this girl for a while, and she knows I like her. The other day she brought up an ex-boyfriend for the first time. She talked a little about him saying how he tried to contact her for the first time in a long time and she doesnt want to talk to him. She then asked if I wanted to see a picture of him. When a girl starts opening up about past relationships, is this a sign of going down the path of friendship? Oe could this be a good sign in that shes starting to feel comfortable with me. Or is it only friends talking with no signs at all. Thanks for any help.
2007-03-26 05:22:54 · 8 answers · asked by mingo1226 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, thanks for the responses so far. I think I need to be a little more specific about a few things. First of all, she brought up a boyfriend of 3 years ago, and I am 100% sure she has no interest in him at all now. She made this clear. I also never actually got to see a picture of him b/c she could not find it so I did not get to see her reaction. She never talks about current guys she likes and so forth. Also, we are very close for the amount of time we've know each other (3 months), and we have talked about other personal things before, but this is the first time relationships have been brought up. Also, I feel I should mention this, she only talked about why they broke up: her ex felt she wasnt putting forth enough effort with the relationship.
2007-03-26 07:54:41 · update #1
Unfortunately it could be either. But if she is single and you are single why aren't you dating her? Opening up about past relationships is generally a good thing. It's honesty and it's important. Droning on and on about past boyfriends is a bad thing and a way of trying to mention that you aren't as good as him. It depends on her tone--did she just mention him or did she look at that picture the way she would stare at Orlando Bloom. Cause she might not be over him. But IMHO, It's probably her way of testing the ground.
When a woman has you PUT in the friend zone, she talks about guys she's dating, guys she'd like to date--very much the way she would to a girlfriend. Just to let you know she has no interest in dating you. But before you go into the Friend Zone she has to make sure you aren't just being slow about it.
With her talking about an ex, it really depends on how she was talking about him. Still sounding like she cared, was in love, still carrying around the picture of him...thats bad. But if it was a picture of something special--like a sister's wedding then the pic is more a memory of the wedding than the guy.
Since she memtioned she doesn't want to talk to him, if she sounded sincere--she might be just trying to test the waters. Get you a lil jealous. See if you are still interested in her.
If she is single and has been for a while--and you've made it obvious you've liked her for a while....she's trying to figure out why you haven't asked her out. Trying to get some vibe from you. If you told her "oh you should talk to that ex" or "have a good time on your date this fri" then clearly you aren't interested and she can move on.
So basically if you are interested and she is single you should make a move. If you don't, she has no other choice but to assume you changed your mind and aren't interested anymore.
2007-03-26 05:34:45 · answer #1 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she know you like her? If she's talking about her ex, you'll never be too sure or know what's going on in her head about him. Whether she told you she doesn't want to talk to him or not. If you're looking for a shot at getting to know her better or pursuing a relationship, listen to what she has to say about him and subtly promote yourself to her... you may be able to compensate for his flaws (you never know- but be truthful to her an yourself, if you're going to do this, because there's nothing worse than not being able to follow through!)
It's a good sign and her openness about past relationships is a great sign of a strong friendship. It's also quite obvious she feels comfortable talking to you... Don't assume or try to find signals that aren't there... She's show them in due time! Good luck!
2007-03-26 05:34:08 · answer #2 · answered by EveryDaysAMardiGras 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think when girls start opening up to us, it's a sign that they want us in their lives. Give her the good advice and opinions that she is looking for and she might just be hooked!
2007-03-26 05:26:45 · answer #3 · answered by Aiden 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you've already been lumped into the "just friends" category. Think about it in reverse...if you were trying to get the girl of your dreams, would you bring up old girlfriends?
2007-03-26 05:27:21 · answer #4 · answered by J D 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She feels comfortable around you.
She put u in the friend zone
2007-03-26 05:27:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say without any other events i would say at this point it is just meaningless or she see's you as more of a close friend.
2007-03-26 05:27:34 · answer #6 · answered by 1.2..3...Boo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's honestly not over the other guy yet so she's looking for you to give her male advice
2007-03-26 05:26:48 · answer #7 · answered by Khalil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its a good sign because she can get comfortable with you she probably thinks she can trust you
2007-03-26 05:28:23 · answer #8 · answered by Isreal's Wifey 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋