I have a problem with becoming very insecure when I'm in a good relationship. I have to make a conscious effort to not become too overbearing and jealous but it doesnt always work. I also find myself getting seriously depressed over thinking about what might happen. Needless to say I normally end up sabatoging the relationship myself because of this. Any self help suggestions?
2007-03-26 05:15:37 · 5 answers · asked by txbiochik 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i've done this before and i think a lot of people do this so your not alone. all i have to say is to make time out for yourself. get your fill of the attention of this other person enough so that you are able to feel secure. if it doesn't feel right then its just not right and trust yourself. once it feels right then find separate things to do. go out with friends and don't worry. you need your own interests also. but also make times to spend with your significant other as well.
2007-03-26 05:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by anonymous 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand in front of the mirror and take a good long look at yourself, focus on your wonderful physical qualities, DO NOT focus on the negative, then complement your self. Write the great things about you and realize that you are priceless, the person is with you because they want to be and if they didn't then you don't want them either, I'd rather have a guy cheat on me and find out that he really doesn't want to be with me then live in a fantasy world. I know what I am worth and if he doesn't then there is someone else that does
2007-03-26 12:28:05 · answer #2 · answered by Hudhud 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It would benefit you to go into counseling to discover the underlying cause of your insecurity, as this will affect you throughout life unless you are aware of the causes and then learn how to improve you self esteem [valuing self dispels insecurities].
2007-03-26 12:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. Maybe take a break and be by yourself for a while. Maybe after you find yourself and do things for you, you will be less insecure? You should not show jealousy in a relationship. :) Good luck.
2007-03-26 12:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Mama R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww, first things first.....if the person you are with has willingly chosen to "BE WITH YOU TOO?" then you shouldnt worry so much. alot of ppl go through this stage of fright and worry, noone wants to have their heart broken. BUT, you cant be so scared to have your heart broken, cruched, or even emotions toyed with. It has happened to me and i have done it to atleast 2 guys i once upon a time dated. I vote that everyone have their heart atleast a lil broken, then your next "special someone" can help heal it. that means you get to be pampered and loved a lil extra by the next "wonderful man or woman" you choose to let "love you".
2007-03-26 12:22:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋