What's up with a 5-year on and off relationship with a guy who lives far from you. We get to see each other about twice a week. He's studying, I'm looking for work. We had good times, and also bad times since High School. We have problems and break up once or twice in a year for like 3 months and always ended up together, even if the guy already had a short term girlfriend.
Does this mean we really love each other and can't seem to move on and live without each other, or is this not normal?
2007-03-26 05:12:27 · 7 answers · asked by C 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said he got into a relationship because what he wanted was to forget me. also, i think we met each other too early? i was 15 then and he was was only 16.
2007-03-26 05:35:30 · update #1
To me this seems like its just something that you guys are not working through.
Either you stay together and stay commited..... or you leave eachother alone and move on with your lives. What you are doing right now is preventing you both from closure and moving on... so have a serious discussion and make a choice
2007-03-26 05:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Scared 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just eachothers security blankets. If he is able to have relationships inbetween your breakups then that is not a good sign that he seriously loves you and wants to be with just you. Instead of getting out of it completely and taking a chance, you both know that you can always get back together. So you either need to stay together and seriously work out the problems that are causing you to break up again and again or say goodbye for good. Yeah that is scary but are you really happy going back and forth constantly?
2007-03-26 12:18:29 · answer #2 · answered by Megan F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have disagreements, you work through them and don't break up b/c of it. Once you are in a relationship you tend to become comfortable in that situation. I don't doubt that you both have strong feelings for one another, but I do question your motives. Love should come naturally and one little disagreement shouldn't make or break you...this pattern happens to many relationships and it is not healthy. On and then off, no, this has to stop once and for all...especially after 5 yrs. It isn't fair to either of you. Be strong and stand your ground. Take time to figure out who YOU are and what YOU need...Time will erase the heartache...
2007-03-26 12:26:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably need to wait until you both have more stability in your lives. Being apart makes it tough, but not impossible. Looking for a job makes you vulnerable. It may work, or it may not. You need to understand why you keep breaking up, and if those issues can ever be resolved. If you break up only because of the distance, then maybe that is not a fair reason. But if you break up to date others, that may never go away.
2007-03-26 12:19:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
actually it's normal. typical if I may call it. But it's just not right to settle for a guy who can't even go steady, i mean really steady with you. It's not a stable relationship when you're on and off. In the end, when you get more serious about your relationship, you'll end up constantly breaking up til you really lose it all.
2007-03-26 12:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new boyfriend, the one you have been on and off again with isn't god for you.
2007-03-26 12:22:20 · answer #6 · answered by droopydog88 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You not lover as more as you are buddies except in this case its a spicy one.
2007-03-26 12:21:03 · answer #7 · answered by EDD 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋